Annoyed!!

Okay my weight loss is very noticable...I get that but I'm a very personal and private person so I really haven't told people about my surgery.  The few people that I did tell have been giving me negative feedback.  I work at three different clinics and now people who have never really talked to me are constantly asking me how I lost the weight.  At first, I was like low carb and exercising twice a day which is true but they keep asking.  I was just on a phone with a patient who is crying her heart out about losing everything in Katrina and I'm trying to make sure she's not suicidal when one of the doctors and social workers just come in my office and ask "how you lost that weight."  I'm like don't they see me on the phone and they just stand there speaking in spanish as I talk with the woman and then finally leave.  Am I wrong for wanting to keep my business personal especially at work...I really don't know these people but I'm starting to feel like I'm just lying.  I know this has been asked several times but help me out at least with some more creative ways to get these folks to leave me alone.

Angie

While I didn't mind telling anyone who would listen about my WLS, you have every right to keep it private.  You don't owe them anything.

You can either tell them:

a)  None of your damn business
b) Continue what you've been telling them....let them speculate, who cares.

No you dont owe them an explanation....YOUR businiss is YOUR business...you are in no way obligated to open up to anyone about your personal business.  People at my job tried and tried to find out my secret but I still didnt give in so 5 years later they still dont know I had wls.  stick to your story they will give up after awhile...right now you are the current gossip....

I tell them one of two things.

a) "Crack doesn't necessarily kill.  Look at what it did for me!"

and

b) "I'z on the AIDs diet.  Wanna share?"

All jokes aside, though, its none of their business.  If you feel comfy telling, its one thing, but if not, tell them to stop asking.  Let them assume what they want.  Chances are, if you tell them, you MAY hear 1)negative reactions (not necessarily, but it could happen) or 2)the b/s behind the back crap. 

Bottom line, you work in clinics.  Most ppl DON'T have to tell their "ailments" and you are no different.  So, stick to your guns, if you want.  Tell them nothing, if that's what u want to do.

Hey Apple, I am extremtly different...I started a second job over a month ago and my training class has 19 people and I told most of them and they have been SOOOO supportive- One had surgery herself 8 years ago and she is helping me and I have even motivated two other women to start getting on point...Sometimes things do blow up in your face but I am such an outgoing person and try to let nothing bother me...I am even getting a diane von furstenberg dress because my co worker at the second job had one when she got to her lowest and wanted to give it to me...I posted something on my facebook about it and someone asked me how and I just never responded becaause she is slim herself...But if someone ask I normally tell them. I do hate when people ask me if I am okay like they expect me to be sick or something.

Apple;
WLS is private but yet it is public. People know who have it and who don't!  Remember Star Jones? WE ALL knew she had something!!
That sister loved to eat!

Look I am to a private person but my nosy a** co-workers knew something was up. So one day I said it yes I had WLS. Now they leave me alone! They have even cut down on the junk they bring into the office.

Tell them and get back to your job/life! You would be surprise who you may be helping by sharing your journey!

All the best!

Folk would bug me like that too - I would just tell them (straight faced and serious):

I started smoking crack daily about two months ago - it's done wonders for my appetite - I just miss my TV though, had to pawn it last week.

and walk SMOOTH off.......

MM and Dalexis....ya'll got me over here rolling.  I'm really going to use the crack line and may even do the junkie itch and see what they say....lol.

I did tell some of the folks I worked with that I considered to be my friends about the surgery and while I thought they were supportive, they have really turned on me and make nasty remarks about the surgery around me all the time so I just don't feel like constantly having to tell people why I decided to have surgery and then defend my choice.  I just have another 6 months at these clinics and then I'm back in the hospitals for a year and then I'm out this city/residency and I can start all over somewhere new where folks never knew me as the 300 pounder.  I know that sounds kinda crazy but it's just how I feel.  My close family members and true friends are really all the ones I feel need to know so I guess I'm cool for now.

I agree. I told only those I wanted to know. Other people say things but who cares......I tell them what I want them to know...And yes they will bug you and then have a negative comment..It is only because they are jealous....Either I diet and exercise or I am on crack...
And you r right it only matters when you have TRUE family and TRUE friends......Keep your head up.....and weight down....(Smile)

I WOULD NOT TELL THEM JACK. NO ONE KNOWS NOT EVEN MY IMMEDIATE FAMILY ESPECIALLY NOT MY AUNT AND COUSINS BECAUSE THEY ARE TO DAMN NEGATIVE. I FO DAMN SURE AINT TELLING NO ONE AT WORK BECAUSE THEY ARE MESSY . I WAS AT A SUPPORT MEETING AND RAN IN TO SOME ONE FROM MY JOB AND WAS LIKE ILL B DAMNED I KNOW THIS BROAD GON TALK BECAUSE THATS WHAT SHE DOES. I TOLD HERE THAT I APPRECIATE IF SHE KEEPS MY BIZNESS OUT OF THE WORK ENVIRONMENT AND SHE SAID SHE WOULD BUT I DONT BELIEVE ONE FRICKEN WORD. GOOD LUCK BUT ME MY SELF I WOULDNT TELL A SOUL EXCEPT YOU HUBBY OR MATE.