Piggyback off DeDee's "What do you think BAF..." post.

Doug can you share??  I got the drink

I'm sure you have more to share than popcorn and an early morning martini. lol. 

Okay since you ASK.

It amazes me in this day in time how folks "THINK" they know someone but really don't. I have been married for almost 3 years and knew my hubby for 6 years. He STILL amaze me with some things he do or say sometimes. However, the goodness of him outweigh the couple of 'irritating" things he may say or do. 

MOST people don't get to know a person BEFORE rushing to another level with them. One of the many of reasons we have so many single parents AND broken marriages. Some people simply don't appreciate the "goodness" of some and depend on the physical attraction more less than the mind attraction. MATURITY has a lot to do with it also, although some are still MATURING in their 40's.

Preach it Mrs Rhonda

I agree wholeheartedly Mrs. Rhonda

See, Rhonda? I knew you had an opinion, babe. 

I notice that the assumptions are simply about men. However if you read the orignal post, I mentioned BOTH sexes. 

I've seen decent men co-habitate/ co-exist with straight up B's and have wondered about that, so, don't be so quick to assume. 

My brother, for example, has been married for nearly twenty years to a woman who is a straight B.  This is a brother who does his daily thing for the NYCMTA, interacts with his two boys (ages 16 and 13).  His wife (who none of us liked even when they were dating, but it wasn't out business to say anything) comes home from her sit-her-ass-at -a-desk job daily, doen't interact with the boys, always complains about being "tired" (maybe if she's so tired all the time, see a doctor, no"), never wants to go anywhere, do anything, and is content to sit around watching television all the time. 

He talks to me about cheating all the time.  I honestly tell him that that isn't the answer.  If he has exhausted all his options, divorce her before cheating.  While I did cheat during my marriage, I explained to him, it was the one thing in regretted.

So, this isn't JUST about men, for those who think i'm typing "in code". 

I notice that the assumptions are simply about men. However if you read the orignal post, I mentioned BOTH sexes

D you always say that every day all day. We get it. Its both sides. But women are going to speak from their perspective with dealing with a man. Most of us are only dating men not women so we can't speak on that side of things. Please don't take personally if we use the he pronoun instead of she. We are not dating she's we are dating he's. We know its on both sides.

A solution?  Doubt it.  some folk learn from people telling them - some only from experience.  I know I am an experience type, hard headed mofo.....  got preggo by a closet crackie, went on to date users and thugs - am just NOW (in my 30's) learning and knowing what to look out for and what ish NOT to take. 

I think good, soild examples of postive relationships are sorely missing in today's word and that's another reason why some don't make the right choices - that's a LEARNED behavior - we don't inately(sp) do the 'right' or 'best' thing. 

so - Ionknow the answer, D - but everybody has to keep on trucking, keep on tryin.