OT dating question

Good Morning family.  I have a question for you.  I date off and on, I've been meeting some nice and interesting people some in person some online.  I like to take my time and get to know folks as much as I possibly can.  Recently I've met a brother or two and my quandry is that for some reason everyone seems to be in a rush.  One Man stop speaking to me because I would not confess to him that I wanted to be in a relationship with him.  Now I had know the dude for a hot minute. A second Man that I had been talking too said that the reason why a Man would rush to get into a relationship is because he likes what he sees and is feeling the person and doesn't want her to be snatched up by some other man,  I'm not feeling that. I explained to him I'm not going anywhere, I just want to take my time and get to know the person. No is it me? Am I missing something.  IF I barely know you why do I have to declare that I want to be in a relationship with you!  I am saying I don't know these dudes they could be the killer?  Is anybody else experiencing this.  Am I being slow?  Have things changed that much

Nothing wrong with you darlin - and that is a sign that homeboy AIN'T the one!!!  YOUR man will be patient and wait until YOU feel comfortable and wouldn't settle for a fast and possibly not heartfelt confession of love.  YOUR man knows you aren't going anywhere and will do whatever it takes to make sure you know he ain't going nowhere either!!!

Be thankful homie put the 'PASS ON ME' sign up in front of you early!!!!  LOL 

You are so very right! and trust me I don't let no grass grow under my feet as my Granma use to say.  I keeps it moving right along.  I've been single for a very long time I could have been married and or in a long term relationship many times over but I REFUSE to settle for less than I think I deserve and want.  Nor am I looking for nothing more or less than I am capable or willing to provide to him as well. I'm just tripping over how so many are going on and on about how sweet and good I am and when I tell them pump your brakes this is how it will go down then all of a sudden it's a different story.  Oooh well

I guess I should put Another bites the dust on my phone lolol

Hey, Val.

Prior to my divorce nearly five years ago, I was last single at about 28 - 29 years old.  Now in my forties, yes, it has changed a bit. 

Have I been guilty of going too quickly at times?  Yes, I have, admittedly, because I thought I knew what I wanted.  With the guys you are talking to, it may be a)they think they know what they want in a woman, have found it and want to progress (my lessons have told me that is not always the smartest course of action to take) or b)they are telling you things they think you want to hear, in order to get closer to you (perhaps physically or for whatever reason). 

This isn't something exclusive to guys, for both genders are just as capable of this, it seems.

My advice?  Take your time.  See what's out there and do NOT commit unless you are ready. 

I always do D thanks for the advice. Thats just how I do I don't care what they say until I feel comforable thats what it is. I've been single this long I can stand a few more days,weeks,months,years

Yes everyone is in a rush on both sides men and women. Just go at the pace you are comfortable and the right man will follow.

Thank you sweetie I certainly will

Take your time Val....if they don't want to wait...keep it moving.
 Things have changed a lot, but anyone who wants to be with you will wait however long it takes.

He will wait as long as it takes WITHIN REASON.  No one wants to feel as if they are being strung along or being played. 

D...that goes without saying...BUT...I know my Angelette and know SHE is not one to string guys along, nor is she a player.  If this advice had been for some random person the WITHIN REASON disclaimer would apply.