BAF what say you???
On March 30, 2009 at 12:06 PM Pacific Time, ktjajj wrote:
LOL sorry Marlo and Faith to get your blood pressure up. I was just trying to wake the board up and get some dialog going.People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown
^5 Marlo! Girl, this is a touchy subject with me since my son's "father" does not do diddly squat for them and he is running from the law right now to keep from being arrested for non-payment. I haven't checked in awhile but his arrearages are probably past 25K by now. With that being said, I am so thankful and grateful that the good Lord in heaven above sees fit that I have an awesome job and can manage without child support payments. I just believe it so trifling when the parent won't even attempt to see their childr(en) and acts as if the child(ren) is/are non-existent. SMDH!!!
People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown
Hey Andrea,
It's a shame that we see this ever so often and a lot of times men don't pay any support because they are taking care of his SO's kids that's not even his.
I believe in Karma and there's a point when the father wants to be a part of that childs life and then don't understand why the child don't want anything to do with them. That's not even to say to child was told anything negative towards the father.....a kid picks up on more things than we think they do.
It's a shame that we see this ever so often and a lot of times men don't pay any support because they are taking care of his SO's kids that's not even his.
I believe in Karma and there's a point when the father wants to be a part of that childs life and then don't understand why the child don't want anything to do with them. That's not even to say to child was told anything negative towards the father.....a kid picks up on more things than we think they do.
Most laws say that C.S. and Visitation are totally separate of one another.
Having said that, in principle, one shouldn't have anything to do with the other. A non-custodial parent (and they come in both sexes) may not be able to actually do the c.s thing for whatever reason. Does that preclude them from wanting to be part of their child's life? Should it? I think not. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of people CHOOSE not to be in their child's life for whatever reason. (usually not wanting to deal with the other parent, which, in my opinion, is stupid).
Having said that, in principle, one shouldn't have anything to do with the other. A non-custodial parent (and they come in both sexes) may not be able to actually do the c.s thing for whatever reason. Does that preclude them from wanting to be part of their child's life? Should it? I think not. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of people CHOOSE not to be in their child's life for whatever reason. (usually not wanting to deal with the other parent, which, in my opinion, is stupid).
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I don't have children but am a child of divorced parents (cool prespective right) well my dad paid his CS....up to the amount the judge ruled. Each year he got us for the summer and took care of us 3 months out of the year. My mom never withheld us but she did not let us forget that he wasn't helping as much as he should. So coming from the childs prespective there is NO need for the custodial parent to discuss with the child what the noncustodial parent isn't doing it doesn't make you look better actually it makes us sympathize with the other parent.
My brother has 6 boys work at Walmart and pays CS for 2 and has custody of the other 4 (he's 28) and the one mother won't let him see the kid eventhough he pays child support because it ain't enough......
My brother has 6 boys work at Walmart and pays CS for 2 and has custody of the other 4 (he's 28) and the one mother won't let him see the kid eventhough he pays child support because it ain't enough......
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I say it depends.
If the parent has never been apart of the child's life, never gave a penny for the child, can't even tell you the kid's birthday but has had a "change of heart" for the moment and wants to get to know child all of 2 weeks, then decides to bounce again. And has proven history of doing this to the child. I say hell naw they can't see their kid. What kid??? They ain't got no kid.
But if the parent is trying to get themselves together, doens't have steady employment in today's economy but is and has been apart of the child's life, then they should have visitation . Why punish the child over some adult issues like money.
These are the two situations I see the most. Usually if the parent is a deadbeat, they are a complete deadbeat and doesn't do either. Or worse, they drift in and out of the child's life like the seasons change.
If the parent has never been apart of the child's life, never gave a penny for the child, can't even tell you the kid's birthday but has had a "change of heart" for the moment and wants to get to know child all of 2 weeks, then decides to bounce again. And has proven history of doing this to the child. I say hell naw they can't see their kid. What kid??? They ain't got no kid.
But if the parent is trying to get themselves together, doens't have steady employment in today's economy but is and has been apart of the child's life, then they should have visitation . Why punish the child over some adult issues like money.
These are the two situations I see the most. Usually if the parent is a deadbeat, they are a complete deadbeat and doesn't do either. Or worse, they drift in and out of the child's life like the seasons change.
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