Predators in the church
Not saying that pulpit pimps don't exist...but, this is not the situation - he is a PREDATOR, hiding behind his God-ordained role as a Deacon.
And the mere fact that he is a professional in the psychology department of a university makes it even worse - he knows how to MANIPULATE...a very dangerous trait, indeed!
I say expose his trifling ass...in every way possible!
DD
And the mere fact that he is a professional in the psychology department of a university makes it even worse - he knows how to MANIPULATE...a very dangerous trait, indeed!
I say expose his trifling ass...in every way possible!
DD
I choose to love myself, live life to the fullest, and encourage others to liberate themselves!
This situation is very unfortunate because you should be free to go wherever you want without having anyone make you feel uncomfortable...I am muslim and at the mosque you will probably never run into another man...Women and Men are separated...They go into different doors and are on different floors...I feel that you did the right thing and nobody should hold that against you.
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There was a church here in DFW where the pastor is now serving prison time for raping 3 women in his congregation. He had slipped them drugs and then assaulted them. Only 3 actually came forward but I don't doubt there was more.
You need to speak up Loudly and don't stop until someone does something. You just may save someone else.
My thoughts are with you.
Dayum! That's just wrong. 
That's a sucka move right there if I ever heard of one. 
I have a feeling that it woud be messy, but you're right. I cannot in good conscience let him get away with this. He should be stripped of his position. I'm just not sure what is the best way to handle it yet. He's been in this church for a long time and has ingratiated himself with a lot of people there.
Even if I do leave the church, it will not be with my head hung down and tail tucked between my legs.
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on 3/26/09 1:14 am - syracuse, NY
on 3/26/09 1:14 am - syracuse, NY
Sorry to hear this Sue....you did the right thing by talking to the pastor. Chances are that you are probably not the first woman that he has made feel uncomfortable, maybe now they will feel encouraged to speak up.
A pastor at a C.O.G.I.C church down the street from me got kicked out of HIS church because he got caught doing the unthinkable in his office at the church. The church had suspected that things were going on so they secreatly video taped the pastor . He was apparently taking advantage of members who were trying to turn their life around, women looking for that father figure types etc .....
Sad sad situation when people in positions of community trust prey on folks.
A pastor at a C.O.G.I.C church down the street from me got kicked out of HIS church because he got caught doing the unthinkable in his office at the church. The church had suspected that things were going on so they secreatly video taped the pastor . He was apparently taking advantage of members who were trying to turn their life around, women looking for that father figure types etc .....
Sad sad situation when people in positions of community trust prey on folks.
Hey Sue,
This is so disgusting to me...in every way! A few years ago, I had an experience at church where a so-called male "greeter" greeted me in the wrong way. We have a ritual of friendship where we go and meet/greet members. Well, this person walked up to me and hugged me and kissed me on the neck! I pulled back from him and went back to my seat - in the Deacon's row (see, all of us ain't crazy!)...a few weeks later, he approached me coming into the doors of the church; however, I rebuffed him and went the other way. I told my husband about the situation and let's just say, he was ready to come up to church and GREET that mofo!
I contacted the chair of our greeters' ministry, who felt it not that important - she never returned my calls, etc. After that, I sent an email to my pastor...well, let's just say boyfriend is no longer a "greeter" and I haven't seen him anywhere in church.
I say all that to say this - do not leave the church! Hold the pastor, the Deacons, the Trustees ALL accountable for this situation. Make it be known to them all that his behavior will not be tolerated. You did a good thing going to meet with the pastors; however, don't let them sweep this under the carpet - make a difference, because it may very well save someone's child down the line!
DD
This is so disgusting to me...in every way! A few years ago, I had an experience at church where a so-called male "greeter" greeted me in the wrong way. We have a ritual of friendship where we go and meet/greet members. Well, this person walked up to me and hugged me and kissed me on the neck! I pulled back from him and went back to my seat - in the Deacon's row (see, all of us ain't crazy!)...a few weeks later, he approached me coming into the doors of the church; however, I rebuffed him and went the other way. I told my husband about the situation and let's just say, he was ready to come up to church and GREET that mofo!
I contacted the chair of our greeters' ministry, who felt it not that important - she never returned my calls, etc. After that, I sent an email to my pastor...well, let's just say boyfriend is no longer a "greeter" and I haven't seen him anywhere in church.
I say all that to say this - do not leave the church! Hold the pastor, the Deacons, the Trustees ALL accountable for this situation. Make it be known to them all that his behavior will not be tolerated. You did a good thing going to meet with the pastors; however, don't let them sweep this under the carpet - make a difference, because it may very well save someone's child down the line!
DD
I choose to love myself, live life to the fullest, and encourage others to liberate themselves!
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