Introduction back into the World

With my upcoming surgery I am excited about alot of things!
 
One things I promised myself was that I would cease with being a hermit and get out and live the rest of my 20's like its a never ending party (obviously once I have fully recovered). And I was wondering did anyone have any difficulty with it?
 
No matter where I would go people always would tell me "oh wow your so beautiful" "your very attractive" etc but that didnt help with the fact when I looked in the mirror I saw a fat face and a big stomach not to mention that my knees are so bad that I cant wear heels (the clear heels...if you know what Im talking about have since collected dust) and I have no desire to go anywhere but to work and home. 

So I am looking forward to having the strength and desire to venture out and do stuff...

Did anyone have to reaquaint themselves with dating, partying etc? And if so how was the process?

Umm if you're single...girl you won't believe the difference!!! All the men that wouldn't give you the time of day before will be up in your face like "don't I know you from somewhere?" Then when you tell them who you are instead of sayin "DAMN YOU LOST HELLA WEIGHT" they will politely say something like "did you change your hair?"  


Also, beware that you're "fat friends" may start to avoid your phone calls and not call you back. They will not want to go out with you because "now she think she all that since she lost weight"...which you WILL be all that so they can hate on No worries though you will meet new and better friends...and the friends that were TRUE will stay by your side through thick and thin..LITERALLY!!!

Yes I am single.

To tell you the truth Ya Ya my "fat friends" couldn't stand my ass now...Oh she think she is so cute becuase she's lightskinned or she has no back fat or she really ant that big...Im always getting hate...so Im kinda used to it lol!!

I am looking forward to meeting new ppl (making new friends) like I said before within the last two years I kinda transformed into a hermit!

Oh yeah it's going to get much MUCH worse for those haters...poor them

I always tell pre-op people the same thing...WLS is 10% physical and 90% mental...so get your head right!

Now that is not meant to be offensive it is exactly what I stated. WLS is a journey and not a destination...make it your own and get out of it what you want. The changes that you will undergo are not just physical but emotional, spiritual, and mental as well. Your mind will play tricks on you...and although WLS changes the size of your tummy, it does NOTHING to your brain. Therfore you will still *want* to eat but physically you can't...it's a mind trip! You will also see the scale go down in numbers but then look in the mirror and *think* you still see the same fat girl staring back at you...again a mind trip. BUT we will be here for you and you will do wonderfully...stay positive and follow your doctors instructions

Thanks

I didnt take offense at all...I know I will have to learn to live and cope differently because the food wont be there as a crutch for me...I plan on seeing a therapist through this whole process as needed..

Now you are one smart woman!

I thank God for OH, even though I found it after surgery.  If I knew back then what I know now, I think my experience would have been a better one.  Going to see a therapist is the right thing  to do, cause this thing is a TRIP!!

Staying connected with a therapist is a good thing. I stayed with my therapist for the first 6 months and it was very helpful to talk to someone to deal with these changes internal and also externally with the rest of the world.

LOL girl you had me cracking up on that quote. You remind me of my self somewhat All i did was work and come home i went few places but my apt was my badger hole. You called your self a hermit and i called my self a badger lol.  I'm sure things will change for the better! As far as fat friends I always got Oh she thinks she's cute( You Damn right I think I'm cute)  I'm not light skin, I'm dark skin but I always got Oh your lucky you don't have to perm your hair,(I can't help it that my mother and father have good DNA LOL) but the funniest thing is fat friends comparing each other fat parts LOL I so hated that. I'm glad things will be changing. One of my closest big girl friends told me that , Oh since your surgery 2 weeks ago she feels guilty eating now I'm like hun!! Girl good luck on your surgery I'll be praying for you. Be prepared to gain your young life back!!