Am I The Only 1 With BM/BF Drama

I understand DeeDee and hate for it to be that way but if you have a baby mom calling your house with this and that (not about the child) then the line gets drawed...If he aint taking care of the children that is one thing but he does not deal with 1 of 2 of the baby moms...The other one is neutral and if she gets out of line she will get cut also...I wish we can all just get along but they make it so hard...They think I am a young girl who stepped on the scene trying to regulate and it is not like that...But I do respect your opinion and wish we can just be neutral.

Amen!  to everything.  My family is sooo blended you can't always see who kids belong to who but we get along and we are more than civil.  I think the main reason is we agree that kids are the priority and leave the BS at the door.

The only drama I have with him is when he gets a new chick in his life and that chick causes problems.  I.E. She thinks he is paying too much child support.  She thinks he needs to get my child more.  She thinks she is my child's momma.  She thinks she has a say in something that ain't got jack crap to do with her.  I can always tell when he has some new girl up in the cut.  And its usually because she's insecure about their relationship and it never has to do with my child.   
I never caused drama with the ex and his daughter's mother.  I refused to be apart of their crap.  It wasn't my business.  I expect the same from him and whoever he's with.  All I ask is that the new chick respect the fact that 1. Me and him had a child together, not him, her and me
2. My child's needs, wants and whatever come before both of them, period.
3.  I do not deal with the person I didn't conceive the child with. Period.  Don't get on the phone if/when we speak.  Don't be in the back ground smacking lips and putting in commentary like ESPN.
4. Know her place and that place is not in my face or space. 

If these rules are followed, then me and the ex don't have to spend countless hours in court.  If they are broken, then all hell will break lose and I kick ass first and take names later.

Well, this is a good topic.  I just had to get this situation ironed out yesterday.  My husband's ex calls to tell us when we will get my step son, basically when she goes on vacation than we can get him.  I've been pretty nice considering, but I did tell my husband last year that the biotch runs her household and not mine.  She has always had an issue with me, but that's her thing.  Here's my thing I'm here and I'm not going any where, you don't have to get along with me, you don't even have to talk to me but the issue truly isn't you and what you wat, t it's about the child.  Now that she know's that I don't flinch and it is what it is she's with the program.  I had to tell her yesterday that we are not and will not make arrangement to change our vacation because she chooses to be selfish in making decisions and not ask anyone.  Can you change your vacation date?  Hell no, change yours.  So in using reverse psychology on her I let her know how it is the child that gets hurt when you play those games and it is unfair to him, besides that my husband is a truck driver and I'm the babysitter.  My boys are 19 and 14 and he is 8, so you know that's a task in itself.  So realizing that I am the go to person because those two can't talk about the weather, I'm helping her grow up!!!!

I'm sorry that you have to be the go between for them.  I guess different strokes for different folks.  But I know for me, with my child, the only person I'm dealing with is the fool that helped create him.