Am I The Only 1 With BM/BF Drama

Hey Sue! I know this miss their mommy, but they are so blessed to have you ~smooches~

No drama with that fool in the last  6 years or so. 

I find that when the feelings have all ran out and folks can act mature then theres less of a chance of drama.

I'm speaking from experience.  When I loved my daugter's father, I was most often the agitator of stuff and was equally ready to bring it when his lady started stuff  cause basically I still loved him and he used that as leverage to play with me.    

Today, Im so far removed from the games cause I got my own life to live and my own kid to raise.  Could care less who he does or how he does long as my child support hits the account. 
I gave up on him being a father emotionally cause I cant get what he never had. 


LIfe is so much better this way

No drama here: My husband is deceased  and Corny's ex wife hasn't seen the kids in 8 years.

How's your relationship with his sisters?

Hey Wonkad..I am all late..I used to be alright with his sisters but not anymore...He is close with my family but his family is in the way...I just rather not deal with any of them...I do not know what we are going to do at our walima (wedding).

The only drama I have is with my BF flying off the deep end whenever I mention that my daughter's father is coming to see here.  WTF?  Did he think that a stork just dropped her arse off at my door?

So I asked him, Are you trying to step up and be her daddy? ................ (crickets).        A hole. ~smh~

My daughter's father is in prison and will not be getting released until she's 18 but he TRIES to regulate and I am absolutely not having it so his sister and mother feel like since he's not here, it's their place to have a say so.

I think not, they get checked each and every time.

 I'm gonna have to agree with the otha sister.  When the feeling stop running on the other end there will be no problems.  I had to open a can of whoop azz 4 weeks post the birth of my son.  My husband was totally unaware that a problem even existed.  I should say on this level.  I think your husband has the right idea but you want to continue to develop and relationship with his children  when you are expecting to plan a family together.  My step children are in the same age bracket and they call on their own.  They are at the age where they can speak for themselves. 

I just  happened to peek in to speak and saw your post up top....this response is NOT directed at YOU....but I "WUSH" a jigga would call himself cutting me off and making me talk to his sisters ~roll eyes~ I'd be like "****** please, man up! Me and you don't EVEN have to ******g talk....just TEXT my asse when you picking them up....TEXT me when you bringing them the **** back! ~roll eyes~"

For the record, before anybody judge me ~holier than thou mfers~ I am 35 years young with two children, 3 stepchildren ~two that I raised as my own in my home~ and a step grandson! ~Don't get it twisted~

I have been with my husby for 15 years this come June.....meaning I was just 20 with a 10-year old, 6 year old and 5 year old ~all by one mother~

She and I have NEVER had words! ~okay so maybe I barked some schitt once or twice about the kids needing consistency~ but we have never had words, words! I always left that up to Phil! In fact, until recently, we all used to kick it ~yep, at fight parties, holidays, etc.~ Now, we are still courteous to each other---we were just over there on Monday picking up our daughter to take her out to eat (she was home from college--Spring Break).....but with stepfamilies....you are BLENDED and you have to find common GROUND....my motto:

It's not about HIM, ME, nor HER--it's about the CHILDREN! ~point blank, end of discussion~

The only thing I don't EVER agree with is stepparents should not discipline the kids

Dedee ain't partial....I whip errybody asse who lives in my house! If you too grown to follow my rules, and that means my birf chil'ren too, get'choo real ugalee asse out my house! ~roll eyes~

I agree with you wholeheartedly DeDee.

DeDee... I agree with you 100%... I remember my daughter called her father on my ex-husband... ***RECORD SCRATCHED*** Did you just called James on KB... Hold the **** up... Then you called from the phone that KB pays for... That took some nerve... HOWEVER... When I got off the phone with Butha MAN!!! We didn't have them problems no mo... James and I have that understanding... I've been here when you wasn't... Kiss my ASS for NOW... I had to remind my ex-husband that the only reason why the kids LOVES his last year dirty DRAWS is because I never allowed them to see his **** STAINS...  I don't believe that one parent should talk down the other one to the kids because they are no longer together... Thats's the **** I HATE!!!  You know yo daddy this... you know yo mamma this... That's just trifling to me...