PIGGY BACK OF MACK MAMMA'S POST...."HOW DO YOU DEAL W/ A LADY WHO...

Fasho...


SENSIBLE is that deal....you can still be fly in a sensible manner...

For the life of me I can't figure out why he doesn't know what I do at work.  The way our relationship works is he is the head of the household so his career comes first.  So I'm guessing it really wasn't important for him to know what I did at work in the beginning.  I've been at this job for 11 years and I honestly think he's embarrassed that he doesn't know at this point.  I also think that because I'm able to work a flex schedule he feels like my job can't be important. His family thinks I'm a secretary and for the life of me I don't know where they got that idea.  Job titles are meaningless to me so I never bothered to correct them…they just think I’m spending my husband’s money which aligns with their way of thinking. When the kids arrived his family assumed that I was going to quit working.  They think in terms of the man being the breadwinner and the wife as a homemaker and since my husband was raised by them he has similar thinking with one exception… I’m a college graduate so I can’t quit working…he feels like I would be wasting my education.   I need to get my money's worth out of it. 

My grandma was a nut with all her rules. It’s not a lie of omission in my case because I’m dealing with a man who says he doesn’t care what I do with my money. I paid cash for my WLS and he didn’t contribute one thin dime. If the money comes out of my account he doesn’t care but if it comes out of the joint account he scrutinizes every single transaction. You went to the grocery store on Friday. What did you buy at Wal-mart on Sunday? 

We have a pretty cool relationship… My husband knows I will never do anything to emasculate him.  He will always be the man.

Now in the past I have dated men who have had problems with the money I made as well as problem with me having a college education.  I'm making the money because of the piece of paper. 

I'm with Mack Mama on the car thing... You have to be making BMW money to drive one.  I drive a BMW... I was driving one when I met my husband and I'm still driving one.   It's paid for and I can afford the maintenance.  Would I ask my husband to buy one for me? Heck no because that’s what I like to drive not him. He prefers to drive trucks. So I feel like you need to make the money to pay for what you want to drive.  Now that we have kids I will have to rethink my next vehicle.  I really would like another BMW but I don't think that's in the cards for me. 

Thank you girlie!!!!  That money ain't no joke!!!  Those are cars you HAVE to keep up - and you can't just get with Uncle Willy and pass him a 6 pack for an oil change!!!!  LMAO

Mr. Baker this is my take on it. I feel that there is nothing wrong with a independent minded woman at all, BUT when you are in a relationship a man likes to feel like a man, and be the person who takes charge; not over the whole relationship cause I feel that there should be some compromise when it comes to relationships. I feel that women can't ask/tell a man to be a man when you don't give him room to do so ya know? Mr. baker I read the Steve Harvey book which is like a best seller called..."THINK LIKE A MAN ACT LIKE A LADY" very good read for women, and men!!!!!!!!! It tells it like it is for real. Women as well as men need to respect each other's differences instead of tearing each other down! Just like this BAF board!!! This is suppose to be a support board, but you have jealousy, and envy, and people constantly tryna tear people down all the time!!! Uplift one another, and respect each other, and their roles, and what they bring to the table that's all.

Hi Blessing's.........How are you doing?

I am doing a little better..How bout you??

Hi.MrBaket870,
I know this is not anwsering the question the way you mean. I'm from the old school(Wish I wasn't but) when I got married he ask me not to work to raise the kids that I did. I be durn if he tell me how to spend a da*n DIME. His check is my check. I,Ride,drive,buy,like i want but I do make use the bills are paid for first. Shoot he see me to get any money and never care
long as in doesn't cut on the water for a shower aand there no water.