much needed help

hi my oh family havent been on  here in a while but im back been real busy went back to school trying to get my g.e.d so i can go into paralegal but enough about that i need help i ahve a very serious problem i have a best friend she is my all like the sister that i neva had the way we met was crazy was living ina shelter and her daughter ask me one day can she come to  my house and ever ssince we been attached to the hip. love her and her daughters dearly consider them my nieces will do anything for them and i mean anuthing dontwant no harm to come there wayn to make a long story short she met a guy and had problems with him on and off finally she tells me she getting back with him im not for it bu**** can i say just told her to make sure she knows wat she doing anyways not ot long ago she calls me tells me she pregnant i told her she would be a f^&ing fool to keep the baby said that out of anger and more out of i know wat type of sutff he doing but anyways i apologized to her finally we talking again  not as much but we talking but come to find out she told him wat i said and he told her he doesnt want  me around the baby now would it be fair if i call him and curse him out or just leave ut aoone and stop messing with both of them oh and one more thing she doesnt know i know wat he said plzzzz family help me been on my mind all day

My experience with this is that she's caught up looking for love in the wrong places. I lost a friend that was caught up and she chose to tell her man everything every time she came to me with issues eventually I had to take a step back and let her make her own decisions. It's hard when you see them walking into a wall over,and over again and there's nothing you can do but let them. Until she makes a decision that she's sick and tired of being sick and tired nothing is going to change. Until she learns that GOD is the only one that will never leave her and that the love she's looking for is on the inside of her nothing you say or do is going to stick. You can't graft a new idea on a closed mind. I would suggest that you give her fifty feet for your on peace and pray for them. Because women who have low self=esteem and no self worth will settle for anything if you know that you were a good friend that has their best interest at heart and you've done your best as a friend then you have done your part. Don't let it have all your power today pray for them and keep your life moving, when it;s time and if it's GOD will he will fix it if not o-well you gave it your all.  

Sorry you have this going on, I have a best sistah friend who has a similar situation.  I speak to her whenever possible and when it comes to the man she has accepted, I have no comments as she already knows how I feel about him.  Now she is seeing that he is a mistake, but I still don't comment because I know it will just backfire, when she decides to get out then I will still be her friend as I am now.  I pray for her and her daughter and I suggest that you do the same.  My Mom used to say, "It is all about having a made up mind."  Until our friends decide they are worth more, they will hang with these guys who treat them less than.