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How long have you been married?  Were these differences apparent from the begining?

Wow, dude.  That's deep and heavy.

First - I think you should get counseling for YOU - obviously you got a lot on your mind, you need somewhere/someone to express it.

Second - you can't change him - he's got to want to change and it doesn't sound like he's motivated.  So that just leaves you to decide what you want to do for you........

Third - what that is for you.... don't know.  Ain't the one to tell you and neither is anyone else.  But ONE thing I have learned - is that I can only be, change, live with and make things happen for me...... and my life is for me and me alone - living to make another mofo happy only leads to resentment and problems later......

Good luck to you - hope things work out and you get happy soon!!!! 

Not trying to sound mean or cruel but how do you expect cyber friends OR even close friends to decide what YOU should do?
 
At the end of the day people will throw out to you what you should or shouldn't do but MANY will end up doing opposite of what they suggest.

I have been married three longggggggg years and NOBODY know what happens behind closed doors except me or my hubby. A long time family friend gave me that advice a long time ago to NEVER share what goes on in my personal relationship with anybody.

Also, I lot of times we seek advice to what we already know the answer too.

Many blessings and prayers as you decide what is best for you and your children.

*hijack* HEY GURL!!!!

what's up????  Been MISSIN me somma you lady!!!!! 

You are right about that!

Think I washaving a moment and wanted to get this off of my chest and was just looking for help!

now if I could only find out how to delete the damn post!

1. Thing you'll never change him, until he's ready to change his self.
2. Meds may help you but won't help the marriage.
3. Counseling may help you and him only if he agree to go.
4.  When did you step into my shoes.
5. Try to down size our home to see if they will help, He's
now in the rear of the house and been there all weekend.
5. He does surf to check to see if I'm still breathing.
6. Don't worry about the kids sometimes it's more harm to stay
then go.
7. God Bless you with all of your choices make them why.
GOD BLESS YOU AND THE CHILDREN.

no advice...just sorry you are going through this and you will come to the right decision for you.