Ok here is my question

Yes, Rhonda..I"m quoting u..

BUT will stalk and kill a mofo if he ever raised his hand at me.


So does that mean I can't spank u?  LOL

Depends on how hard you spank.

I will put it to you like this:

I watched my dad beat my mom on occassion and promised myself I would NEVER TOUCH A WOMAN IN ANGER.  As of this writing, I never have.  I don't say this for accolades, but because a real man WON'T do it.  Even if she is coming after him, he will try to diffuse the situation without resorting to beating that arse. 

Having said that, I teach Naja never to have a man a)call her out her name, b)lay a hand on her in anger and, most importantly, c) NEVER EVEN CONSIDER dealing with a dude who doesn't treat her AT LEAST as well as I do. 

Having said that,  that Rhianna is going back to this kid (or even considering it), unfortunatly, is typical behavior for some.  Me? If that's MY daughter, Chris is singing "Run It" with my size 13 Timb firmly entranced in his ass. 

Infallable and mistake?  Balling up your fist and punching someone in the grill isn't a mistake.  You WILLED yourself to do that. 

Whether you chose to forgive or not is your prerogative.  For example, I know some women who will forgive a physical asswhipping, but if the dude cheats, he's out.  I don't get that one.  For me, I've cheated (while married-- :(   ) and have been cheated on.  If forgiven and been forgiven. It depends on the person.

That is good that you are teaching your daughter respect and how to be respected. I am sure she is going to grow up to be a very well adjusted young lady. That is why it so important to have fathers in our girls lives.

Of course I wasn't there but, I strongly suspect that this was not the first time Chris Brown hit Rhiana. For me, if you put your hands on me or my child in an abusive way, that is it, no second chances. I don't care what provoked it or if it is an "isolated event". I would forever be waiting for the next time, I think it is bound to happen again. As far as cheating, I think that people can change, I may give a second chance depending on the cir****tances.

Amanda I know this has nothing to do with the topic but you looked so good in the pictures Wonka posted the other day. Keep up the good work girl.

Awww, thanks!

Once a hitter, always a hitter. My first (I've been married twice) husband thought it was okay to take a swing at me. I knocked his ass d **** out and ran out of that house. Yeah, I said RAN. I don't know any women who can whip a man. As the old folks will say "It ain't natural". We divorced after three months of marriage.

Cheating....yeah, don't trust that mess either. I forgot to mention that my first husband came home spelling like some cutty - not mine.  That's the reason for the fight in the first place.

Any offense is grounds for dismal with me. I stopped having the patience of Job a looooonnnnggggg time ago. I'm knocking at 40 and my tolerance is shot to schitt.

Cheating/Hitting/Offensive - good indicators, but you usually don't find out about this until some time has passed. Too bad there isn't a test out there available to help weed out potential arseholes.

Oooh wee girl I do not blame you on that one. But you know I LOL when I had a mental picture of you taking off after you hit him.

You know what I am 31 years old and I am losing more and more patience as the years move forward. Like I told Ms. Kim I used to be so trusting but now I am losing my trust in humankind. Its kinda of sad.

 @ dat dag on Wonka hahaah