Ok here is my question

Thinking of the Rhiana and Chris Brown situation and other situations that I know of does 1+1 always equal 2.  If a man hits you will he alway**** you? Can't it be an isolated incident? If a man/woman cheats on their mate does that mean they will always cheat? Do you let someone go after the first time they comitt a major offense against you or do you realize that people are infallible and make mistakes? I guess I am asking how do you determine the character of a person? 

A person only gets one chance with me. I have a very low tolerance for BS. Your 1st F*ck up with me will be your last. No second chance.

A wise person learns from others mistakes

Ok just to play devils advocate for just one moment do you expect people to treat you the same in return. Do you expect for a person to just give you just one chance and if you don't live up to expectations should they toss you to the side? Just wondering. I am not saying you are wrong in how you feel I just want to know how does it work on the flip side.

I am pretty much the same yesterday, today and will be the same tommorrow. So chances are if I do or did some f-ed up stuff already more than likely I will be doing it again. It all goes back to tolerance. If a person can tolerate who I am then we good to go. But for me if you ever hit me...you will wish you never met me and if you cheat on me I am out. Thats me on those 2 issues but other issues I may or may not tolerate. Just depends.

ex.
I hear friends complain about their mates staying out late or always hanging with the boys..that would not bother me

I hear friends complain of cheating mates...that would bother me

friends complain of mates not spending time with them, talking to old female friends, ..wont bother me

saying something negative to them..wont bother me (truth hurts sometimes)

Hitting and cheat would bother me so I wont stay

I see what you are saying. So its not that they can't do anything wrong its just that you have certain deal breakers and lines that just cannot be crossed. I feel you on that one. You have to be true to yourself and if you don't stand for something you will fall for anything. I gotcha

If I ever get that angry enough to raise my hand, that would be his decision to stay.  I can only speak for myself.  I can not say how I would feel if he left cause if I hit him he was probably half way out already.

I agree with this statement from pass experience.  Too old to be going through their issues.  I believe that humans can change however at this point they would be changing with someone else.  Nice post

1 + 1 does not always equal 2 and you do have to look at the situation at hand.  I will say that there's NOTHING a woman could do that should cause her to get hit. I'll admit, I came very close once, but cooler head (and I'm allergic to Jail) prevailed.

Once a cheater does not mean you will always cheat either.  All of this is touchy and I guess you really have to take a mentel accessment of the person you're with.  What if you're with them for 10 years and he has never laid an angry hand on you, but this one time he spoke with his hand. Is the relationship over? To some women it is.

If you met a stripper and start dating and 2 months in it she cheated on you. Do you forgive her for that?  You really have to look at your mate's track record.  Yes we all make mistakes and have to come to a good safe conclusion.

You look at how long you've been together and is this something that's not in their normal everyday behavior.  Sometimes different events can bring out a lot of wrong in a person.

Hmm very interesting point. I want to know about the one time you came close  

good question, I was two seconds off my friends ass discussing this just the other day. 

I personally think nobody should hit anybody.  That said I also think a woman doesn't get a pass for being a woman and shouldn't take being a woman as license to wild the **** out and think she's immune to a smackdown.  I'm sorry, but that's my opinion.  Now my friend on the other hand got all up in arms and went into how she's been that woman and blah, blah, blah.  *I* being the ***** that *I* am had to bite my tongue to keep from asking her how seriously should her opinion be taken given the fact that she's still f*ckin one of the negroes that put his hands on her?  

I'm jus'sayin

Furthermore, when she told me of the incident I remember sitting there thinking to myself "what the **** did you expect"?  I won't get into it, but I swear (IMO) she truly provoked the situation.  That said, I don't think 1+1 is always 2.  AGAIN, I don't think hitting is right, but I do think that people get hypersensitive about the black and white of things and things aint always black and white.

 my bottom line is that no one ever knows the whole of these types of situations except the people involved, and like I told my friend speculation of Rhianna's history and actions are fair game if we're gonna speculate.  Think about it, how many times have you had a girlfriend tell you half of **** then when you don't tell her what she wants to hear out come some more details to sway your opinion?