SUBMISSION?

People have a very negative reaction to submission, but in truth, it's (not always) a bad thing.  You said yourself that you fight it because you have made hasty decisions...so basically you're jaded.  You've got issues.  Totally normal, but it doesn't make submission a bad thing, it just makes it something you're not fully prepared to wrap your mind around.

To answer your question

You submit when you've worked out all your **** and you no longer see submission as a negative. 

I know you said fellas, but we all know there aint none round here and the few there are aint gonna answer cause they're on patrol for boobie posts.

WOMAN...I like you. You right in ya face. But you are REAL!  

anything less would be uncivilized. 

Thanks so much QT...I'm going to take from what your saying...

I guess I'm jaded does that mean i'm not completely over past situations or issues? What about the saying if a dog bites you twice? I'm not into being bit twice....

Basically. 

It's not quite a "blame the victim" mentality, but at some point personal responsibility does come into play.  If you ****** up and XYZ happened, then you know what not to do again.  If you didn't **** up and XYZ still happened, that's life, hopefully you've learned what to look for next time or learned something valuable about yourself or whatever the case may be.  

Unfortunately we can't control what someone else is gonna do, we can only be true to ourselves.  There's nothing wrong with being cautious about being bitten, but I think that people get so deep into their defense that they become offensive and THAT alters the course of what could be   Never feel guilty about bouncing on a situation if it doesn't feel right, but don't let your past issues be what convinces you that it's not right.  (Feel me?) 

I just think holding onto **** cripples your mindset and then you're prone to making a whole new set of mistakes cause you didn't learn **** last time 
 

Damn...

What you said spoke to my whole point........

I really appreciate that shawty! Thanks so much....

"If you ****** up and XYZ happened, then you know what not to do again....."
I'm not doing the same thing twice.....
FK THAT!

QT, u r right on point! I don't know why people have a problem with saying they submit to their partners/God. It's only natural and when you are truly an adult you have no problem saying that you can submit to someone or something. People who are lined with their spirit and God know that submission isn't a bad thing and it shouldn't be viewed in a negative light.

thanks for ur input cause u took the words outta my mouth!

~Kerbi