ot...DOUBLE STANDARD????

Ok i have a question, I just got of the phone  with a friend who happens to be bisexual, she  juust got out of a relationship  with a women last september,  she has infomrem me that she is now in a relationship with a nice guy and  he is totally aware of her past relationship  as a matter of fact he seemd pretty excited about it, i was explaning to her that  if she were a man this would not be the case....... so my question is  ladies do you think this double standard exists? would you be able to date a man  once he  has told you that  he was once intimate or in a relationship with another man,  please be honest!! i need your feed back and men  would you have a problem with your lady being in a realationship with  another women from her past?

I probably would not because the first thing I would think about is HIV...No I should not think like that and I have nothing against Gay men but you said be honest...But the thought of being with a man that was once with another man disgust me...I do have gay friends who are cool but it is not a double standard...I am more of the love who you want type, whether it be a female or male, just love them and do not play games with it...I am not homophobic but my spouse is for religious reasons I guess...

Most straight men are intrigued by female bisexuality.  That alone makes it something that's far more tolerable to them, and oftentimes encouraged because of that ever-present hope of having a threesome.

Most straight women are NOT intrigued by male bisexuality.  Plain & simple.  It's not something they encourage or tolerate. 

I don't know if this would classify as a double standard.  I think female bisexuality & lesbianism is just way less taboo than the male equivalent.  Sad, but true.

Ditto!  What she said. 

No offense but there is no way in hell I would/could/etc. date a man that was homosexual/bi-sexual.  The health risks, the lifestyle, etc. are too much of a risk for me.

I'm also of the school of opinion that (flames are coming I know) that there is not bisexual people.  You are either gay or your not...

You are practicing or your not.  Bottom line.  There is no middle ground.

lmao..... popcornnn......

  I have to disagree there are many bi-sexual people  take it from me I know and I find it humouous whenever people bring up the hiv thing many in our comminity are precticing safer sex measures  and besides hiv   there are many more diseases that  females can expose us to then the other way around the fact is that black women are getting hiv at a higher rate than  any other group ...why? because they are not practicing safe sex  with their  men"  who may have been with another man before he got to her, I cant tell you how many times  i have been in places , clubs, churches  ect with the most manly  men were their with their beatiful women on their arms but they had to do a double take when they se me because they knew  I saw there  a few nights ago  at one of the  gay clubs!!! or I know this one guy who is   a big time thugh in the streets but  when he hits the bal lroom he is  a dancing queen!!

That's why in general black women or otherwise...need to be using condoms.

And men need to quit lying.  If you like dick, than say so.  Don't put your woman in jeopardy. 

As for your comment re: black women, they are no longer....the fastest growing group is "heterosexual" people over the age of 50.  They are getting divorced, partners are dying, etc. and they are out not understanding what the rest of the world has been dealing with for all these years and are exposing themselves to far more than HIV.

I also am a firm believer in HIV testing when you are in a "monogamous" relationship.  That includes regular STD testing prior to making the commitment to stop using condoms.  I have a close friend who was a virgin, married her husband who had other partners...she has genital warts now.  He had no visible symptoms as men often don't and gave her something she will have the rest of her life.

I hate to bust your bubble, but women do not transmit disease, MEN DO; meaning, if a woman has a STD it will stay dormant until a man comes along and chances are that the woman got the disease from a man. That is why the Lesbian community does NOT have the exhorbatant number of STD's that the Gay , Bi-Sexual and Straight communities have. If a Lsbian gets an STD, believe that most times she has been dealing with a bi-sexual ( female).

Also, there are a number of STD's that can be transmitted by a male scrotum (from sexual contact from an anus) to a woman's vagina. Riding that "hershey highway" is a nasty deal for a woman...but some don't mind. To each his/her own.

I think it's a double standard because there is nothing "sensual" about two "bulls" butting heads...I am a Lesbian and I don't care to be around "flaming" gay men or watch their shows of "affection".