OT: piggyback on yesterdays hair discussion

Hi BAF,

I have suffered from thin, short hair all my life.  I was teased in grade school as "the bald headed girl" - too bad I 'm not younger if I had grown up later my mother could have slaped some braids with extensions in my hair and saved me a who lotta social anguish. Instead I grew up in "afro puff 70's".  In my late 20's I began to suffer from alopecia - I started losing what hair I had.  I still hung in, wore my own until a client came to me worried that I had cancer cause my hair made me look like I was undergoing chemo!  After that, I went to wigs.  Every once in a blue I think I should ditch the wigs [the way my hair loss happened in the crown I can't do weaves or braids] shave my head and go with the truly bald headed - though natural look. 

I think the ghosts of the past stops me on this.  I am tall and I always said I don't think I have enough self-confidence to be 5'11" fat and bald headed.  With weight-loss and other changes I think I might be feeling good enough about me to go there.  The look says confidence to me.

I'm curious how do other people see the total baldheaded [big earring] look for women

Hey Rhonda S:

First I will say, You have to Do YOU. I recall going to a Les Brown seminar several years ago where he told the story of a woman  - who had alopecia...anyway, she finally stopped giving excuses/reasons for not going outside with her "natural", bald head. When she did, she discovered that the world was not full of condemnation of her and some people would even came up to her and thought her hair style was cool.


I guess what I am trying to say is that it is all about your psychological out look...the "I'm OK - You're OK" perspective. If you are OK with you and your relationship with the world, then you are going to attrack those that are OK too, for the most part. And those that are not OK with you, you can look at them with Confidence, with an air/demeanor of  "It's Ok if YOU don't think I'm OK, because I'm OK with ME."

If you like it, I love it!
 
I personally have a friend that isn't bald but keeps it pretty dayum close and wears the big earings, size 22, 5'10. She walks around like she is DA BOMB. And other people always comment on how beautiful she is, but they don't have to......she knows it!

Once you possess that, you can rock any dayum thing you please.

oooooh!  I say GO FOR IT!!  Whenever I see that look, I wish I were bold enough to rock it.  (Did you see Law and Order SVU On Tuesday night?  a Sister on there had the bald look and she was Fierce!!).

You know, black women and men look good bald - IMHO.

I think its a look that is admirable and screems " I'm secure with myself " 

I'm speaking from experience. 

I wore my hair in a very clean fade/ low caesar cut for about 6 yrs off and on. And people would stop me in the street and tell me how much they loved the look on me. 

In the Summer I would even put a little color in my finger snap short hair to spice things up a bit. 

The beautiful thing about being a woman is that we can be versatile and mix things up a bit whenever our mood strikes and still look  " magically delicious "   

Glad to hear that your feeling good enough about yourself  to  step out your comfort zone. You are gonna love it.......the ease of the maintenance and the fresh air on the back of that neck.  

The only drawback to that kind of style ( if you want to call it that ) is that whoever cuts your hair  should be careful to keep  it soft  and feminine, otherwise you may attract attention from the home team.   

Otherwise.....enjoy and embrace the new you !  


  

Go for it!  With a little self confidence you can own that look.

Good luck!

 I used to work with a lady who was bald and she's very pretty - tall and elegant.  Truthfully, I never noticed whether she wore big earrings, but she always looked professional in the office and still stylish whenever I saw her away from work.

Like Nike says "Just do it "...........I am a big fan of natural hair styles ,so I say go for it Ma

I think that the bald head big earing look is very beautiful and sexy especially when carried with confidence, truly confidence is key as you have to be a strong bad sistah to rock a smooth head!

I use to rock a very close cut and the attention was always on me. In fact I got a fresh cut today.  The men all pause when I walked in a room. Go for it.