XPost:: New Life ...Transitions

So I've lost the weight. I even made it to goal.  Now, I am going through a transition that I didn't expect to come so soon. Being normal. Blending into scenery of regular people. No longer being the one that "lost all that weight." I have accepted a new job that is going to start sometime in March. No one there "knew me" back when I was heavier. I am going to be perceived as what I am, not what I used to be. 

I told my hubby yesterday, that I think I harp on my past so much that I don't prepare myself for my future. However, I don't know what I want for my "future." I no longer have a goal to fight for. I don't want to be taller, shorter, thinner, fatter, sexier, faster, stronger, or any of that (sounding like kanye west right now...lol).  I know that I want to make more money, and retire at 55, but that isn't the physical me. 

My big question: What will make me special now? This transition should be interesting.

Hi Mindy,

Only YOU being YOU  will make YOU SPECIAL NOW!!!!

I guess I can tell you from experience to BeWare of Being Normal.
Just like you I attained and surpassed all my WLS goals.
I then ventured into the world where no one knew me before - I blended in very nicely.
New job, new friends, new environments - all where there was no need to discuss fitness, health, nutrition or WLS ever.  I strayed away from my support group, spent less time on the message boards BAF included and focusud on Just Being Normal.

Well let me tell you that in my opinion - WE Will NEVER be NORMAL (and what IS normal, anyway???)   When I did that I stopped getting on the scale daily, stopped working out daily, stopped counting protien and calories, almost stopped taking my vitamins daily.  I also started regaining the weight that I worked so hard to get off.  That's what I got for being NORMAL.

I say all this to say CONGRATS on your success but don't have to much fun being normal - remember to Just be YOU - an obesity survivor and WLS patient.  While it sucks to think WLS 24/7 loosing contact with it will wind you back in trouble.

Cool. Thanks for the much needed advice! Hope to see you at the DC events!

Looking forward to meeting you.
I will be out Thursday night and then for a few hours at dinner Friday evening.

You look amazing!  Congratulations on your journey.

I think its not about getting a new life,  its about continually improving on the 2nd chance at life  that we all have been given. . 

We all are soooooooo much more than a number on the scale or a pants size.  We are so much more than our occupations or who we are married to or coupled with.  We are more than whats in our bank accounts even........

I pray that you truly   find your purpose and sense of fulfillment.  You have had an incredible journey. You met your goals......now its about finding that balance where you can  maintain  them and become a living example to others in the struggle either with their weight or  whatever else it is that you have overcome as a result of this journey.  It may take some soul searching to figure out what that is....but  the key is that we dont stop trying.  

Having the courage alone to do that -  makes each and every one of us special.

Wishing you the best of luck. 

CONGRATULATIONS ON MAKING GOAL!!! 


I don't know what will make you special, other than your Humanity. But may I suggest focusing on what you consider successful; What will make you a SUCCESS in LIFE? List those things and go after them every day with passion.

OHMYGOD! That's  exactly how I'm feeling its like I never thought I would blend in to the crowd and just being normal and now what?  I feel for me its time to focus oin other stuff besides my weight but that is a nuew concept that I have to get used to. Enjoy being NORMAL!!

I want to thank all of you for your wonderful comments. You al have given me plenty to focus on. It may seem obvious for some...to focus on just being me. But I guess I need to get to know "me" a little more, because I'm sorta "brand new." LOL

You no longer have a goal to fight for or no longer have an obstacle to fight against?

 

I think that was the issue for me.  I’m an achiever.  Always have been.  The one thing that I could not conquer though was the weight.  Years and years and years of pushing against a seemingly immovable force and all of a sudden it’s not there.  whoa...  I can so relate to your post.  I’d spent all of this time and energy in battle and finally my enemy had been stomped to the ground. 

 

So now what do I do? 

 

  Keep one eye on the enemy.  It’s only temporarily beaten down.  Trust me. It will return when you least expect it and with a vengeance.  Obesity is a sneaky sucker.

 

Explore your options.  Look around and find something in this world that you believe you could be joyfully passionate about and totally immerse yourself in it.  When you get full of that, try something else.  Live your life!  What’s important to you?  What makes you feel good?  What is FUN?!  Family, friends, spirituality, helping others, becoming healthier, public service, learning, traveling, etc?  The possibilities are endless.
 

Be happy and live your life!  Congratulations on achieving your goal weight.