Finding that "Happy Place"...

I admire folks that think like you. I was always miserable because of my weight, I guess I felt like it was the cause of so many other negatives in my life. Now I could kick my own azz, for not seeing what others see/saw in me that I never believed was there. Hell, it still ain't perfect when I look in the mirror, but I'll take what I see now over what I saw THEN, that is for sure. I guess I am a classic 'fat chick with low self-esteem' that snowballed into so many other things in my life, bad decisions, bad relationships, etc. I do notice that since I *decided* to look better upon me, things in my life seem to have fallen into place over the last few years. Maybe it's because for the first time I am *comfortable* with me instead of so damn self conscious!!! Because now I smile more! Who knows. But I pretty much like me now.

Now that sounds like you've made a 360...taking control of you and your happiness

Nobody is perfect so it's a daily walk...sometimes that means hour by hour and sometimes that menans minute by minute. Can't wait to meet cha

Great post!

I'm in a recursively pensive state - wondering about happiness and if I'm doing things/making choices that show if I'm happy or miserable. Although, many people see me as self-confident, laughing, etc, I really wasn't happy with me... or the choices I was making. I have since, made a conscious decision to do things that show how much I love, support, and cherish me. Especially if it's something that will hurt now, but benefit me in the long run.... this is HUGE for me in so many areas. I'm learning that to deny myself of somethings, people, places, conversations, is a REALLY good thing, and shows how much I truly appreciate myself, befriend myself, and love myself....

Thanks so much for this really thought provoking post.

Growrth and development physically, spiritually, and emotionally are all really good things. It sounds like you're doing a great justice for YOU  

You are so right YaYa it's all about how comfortable a person is in their skin (no pun intended).  So many people allow society to define them from the outside that they overlook and don't develop their amazing personalities, talents, traits and skills to the fullest. 

If you don't love you prior to WLS nothing magic is going to happen post surgery to make you love yourself.

^5 AMEN!!!

Damn!  I saw the title to this and thought you was giving masterbation instructions.........

Ummm - hmmmm - lemme think.......

I know that *I* am plenty unhappy with my body - I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to have 10K drop from the sky to let me get my anchor TT like I want so bad so I can MAYBE feel okay.  But I am learning to accept it and not dwell on it.   That took a long time.  Give your friend some time - you'd be suprised at the issues mofos deal with post WLS - I had TONS of **** to sort out in my head.......

LMAO.  You know u r a fool right?  But in all seriousness I've opened threads cause I thought  it was some juicy ****z only to find a serious topic so I feel u but you still a pure nut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

  I can't help it - that was what was in my head!!!! 

 Now Mack....

You know I only post that sexual stuff on the "other" board