What kind of posts.....
Sis I MUST see you this weekend.
You betta bet I've got something on my mind
ETA - YES I delete that - It was for Di's eyes only.
OOOOOPS was I not supposed to respond to that?
I LOVE YOU!!!
Hurry up and get to DC woman - I will see you on Thursday I get off at 6
Do I need to get slick (cough cough) I mean sick so I can get some personal time with you???
You betta bet I've got something on my mind
ETA - YES I delete that - It was for Di's eyes only.
OOOOOPS was I not supposed to respond to that?
I LOVE YOU!!!
Hurry up and get to DC woman - I will see you on Thursday I get off at 6
Do I need to get slick (cough cough) I mean sick so I can get some personal time with you???
Peace & Blessings, Sharon
6 years and counting
6 years and counting
I'm somewhat of a newbie to BAF in a sense, but I tend to get in here and mix it up with everyone because a brotha just "be's like that" ya dig. But to answer your question(s):
I won't respond to posts by people who:
- don't have their own pic in their avatar and don't have at least 3 or 4 of their own original pics of themselves on their profiles.
- people who don't have a picture of themselves for their avatar AND have their profiles marked private.
I STRONGLY FEEL THAT THESE PEOPLE ARE SIMPLY COWARDS AND DO NOT BELONG ON BAF OR ANY OTHER INTERNET HELP FORUM IN MY OPINION.
I feel if you have an opinion then speak your mind but don't hide like a punk. Other than that it's just one big ole party to me and no topic is really off limits on BAF.
I won't respond to posts by people who:
- don't have their own pic in their avatar and don't have at least 3 or 4 of their own original pics of themselves on their profiles.
- people who don't have a picture of themselves for their avatar AND have their profiles marked private.
I STRONGLY FEEL THAT THESE PEOPLE ARE SIMPLY COWARDS AND DO NOT BELONG ON BAF OR ANY OTHER INTERNET HELP FORUM IN MY OPINION.
I feel if you have an opinion then speak your mind but don't hide like a punk. Other than that it's just one big ole party to me and no topic is really off limits on BAF.
Curios why both? I am pretty new and I change my avatar for how I am feeling ... might be me, may be my husband, our daughters, flowers, african art ... whatever ... not sure I get how that equates "punk" ... lol ... but then again I have african art on my avatar ... so maybe i wont find out huh ... 
I am going to run and change it right now ... sike just playin ...
I am going to run and change it right now ... sike just playin ...
.............................................................
~ Yet Pressing ~
This is the internet....the world-wide web!
People mark PRIVATE or FRIEND'S ONLY cause people who have not a dayum thing to do with WLS be on here....copying their schitt and posting on their hometown lightpoles.....
I don't call that a coward....I call it trying to stay out of jail
Really, just send them a friend's request ~wink~
People mark PRIVATE or FRIEND'S ONLY cause people who have not a dayum thing to do with WLS be on here....copying their schitt and posting on their hometown lightpoles.....
I don't call that a coward....I call it trying to stay out of jail
Really, just send them a friend's request ~wink~
I focus not on my disabilty; my focus is on my ABILITIES.
(Dedee, 2009)
My hearing impairment ENABLES me, not disables me.
(Dedee, 2008)
~Dedee
Hello Madame. It's been quite a long time, hasn't it? Can't wait to to see you this weekend!!
I love your post topic!!
Incidentally, THESE are the types of posts I will respond to EVERY CHANCE I GET. Ones that provoke thought, meaningful conversation.......HONESTY..... (LOL!!!)
I understand where you're coming from with your frustrations. We all have them--I'm simply glad that they (your frustrations) don't cause you to make the decision to leave us altogether.
Many have spoken about how the board dynamics have changed and how it ultimately prevented them from returning--but I've said it before--the board HAS to undergo some type of change on a regular basis--that's what ANY congregation of personalities will do.
In the past, I've had the PLEASURE (NOT!!) of conducting group psychotherapy.....and I HATED it. Hell, I STILL do! (you couldn't pay me enough to do THAT &^%$ again!!) At times, I see the SAME dynamics here on the board. but it's NOT just BAF, or OH, it's ANY time a congregation of personalities come together. Whether you or I choose to participate or NOT, it's STILL going to take place, so DAMN--why fight it? On the board, just as in group psychotherapy, we have the individuals that play the "heroes" (the person always there to save the day), the "mascots"(The family clown, annoying, not taken seriously), the "lost children"(loner in a private fantasy world) and of course...the "scapegoats"(no definition necessary). Then you have those who simply sit on the sidelines--whether it be to simply shake their heads, be amused or BOTH. I unfortunately fall into the "sideline" category at times--knowing damn well I don't want to. So I find myself --at times-- forcing myself to post--more often than not to cheer someone on, welcome a newcomer or to offer "suggestions".
(Note the use of that word!?!--I make it MY BUSINESS to carefully utilize the RIGHT WORDS when replying to others!! Too many times, I've sought out to offer assistance and was damn near attacked for doing so. Despite the fact that i'm fully aware that 9 times out of 10, it's not TRULY directed towards me, it still seems to have left a sour taste in my mouth--go figure!!)
Anyway.....
I cannot respond to posts that I cannot identify with.
I tend to stay away from the posts where someone is grieving about something or someone, (only 'cause a brother gets tongue tied when it comes to stuff like that)
I will stray far away from the posts that have been done to death.
and....I've LEARNED to stay FAR AWAY from the posts that incite drama. I remember when I was the FIRST one to change my avatar to the popcorn eating one when a GOOD drama post came about. I've since learned that even though I never SAID anything in those posts, it DID "fuel the fire" a bit, so now, I'll just sit on the sidelines...either shaking my head or being amused. or BOTH. LOL!!
(as I'm about to hit send, I can only imagine what this post will look like! Forgive me, Madame!--I'm stuck in traffic--thanks for making it bearable! Wonderful post!! I'll doctor it up later!!)
I love your post topic!!
Incidentally, THESE are the types of posts I will respond to EVERY CHANCE I GET. Ones that provoke thought, meaningful conversation.......HONESTY..... (LOL!!!)
I understand where you're coming from with your frustrations. We all have them--I'm simply glad that they (your frustrations) don't cause you to make the decision to leave us altogether.
Many have spoken about how the board dynamics have changed and how it ultimately prevented them from returning--but I've said it before--the board HAS to undergo some type of change on a regular basis--that's what ANY congregation of personalities will do.
In the past, I've had the PLEASURE (NOT!!) of conducting group psychotherapy.....and I HATED it. Hell, I STILL do! (you couldn't pay me enough to do THAT &^%$ again!!) At times, I see the SAME dynamics here on the board. but it's NOT just BAF, or OH, it's ANY time a congregation of personalities come together. Whether you or I choose to participate or NOT, it's STILL going to take place, so DAMN--why fight it? On the board, just as in group psychotherapy, we have the individuals that play the "heroes" (the person always there to save the day), the "mascots"(The family clown, annoying, not taken seriously), the "lost children"(loner in a private fantasy world) and of course...the "scapegoats"(no definition necessary). Then you have those who simply sit on the sidelines--whether it be to simply shake their heads, be amused or BOTH. I unfortunately fall into the "sideline" category at times--knowing damn well I don't want to. So I find myself --at times-- forcing myself to post--more often than not to cheer someone on, welcome a newcomer or to offer "suggestions".
(Note the use of that word!?!--I make it MY BUSINESS to carefully utilize the RIGHT WORDS when replying to others!! Too many times, I've sought out to offer assistance and was damn near attacked for doing so. Despite the fact that i'm fully aware that 9 times out of 10, it's not TRULY directed towards me, it still seems to have left a sour taste in my mouth--go figure!!)
Anyway.....
I cannot respond to posts that I cannot identify with.
I tend to stay away from the posts where someone is grieving about something or someone, (only 'cause a brother gets tongue tied when it comes to stuff like that)
I will stray far away from the posts that have been done to death.
and....I've LEARNED to stay FAR AWAY from the posts that incite drama. I remember when I was the FIRST one to change my avatar to the popcorn eating one when a GOOD drama post came about. I've since learned that even though I never SAID anything in those posts, it DID "fuel the fire" a bit, so now, I'll just sit on the sidelines...either shaking my head or being amused. or BOTH. LOL!!
(as I'm about to hit send, I can only imagine what this post will look like! Forgive me, Madame!--I'm stuck in traffic--thanks for making it bearable! Wonderful post!! I'll doctor it up later!!)
1.) The BACKLINES have backlines. Watch what you say and more importantly WHO YOU SAY IT TO!! 2.) There are NO secrets on BAF. DON'T BE FOOLED!!
3.) The person who says: "I'm going to tell you something, but you can't tell anyone." has already TOLD 50 other people!
No--this isn't from experience--well, not MINE anyway!
Hey Handsome!!!! How's the Family - sending my love!!!
(Why you gotta write a book - you know I can not help but slowly take in every word you write - a sistah is TIRED now)
I feel you - I find myself shaking my head on the sideline most often. It's not that I don't want to lend support and encouragement I - like you always feel the need to choose my words wisley so as not to be misunderstood. You see they can't see the mischief and twinkle in my eyes or yours when we say something off the cuff that could only be understood in real life and not in words on a screen. I so do not do drama and destest being in the midst of confusion.
I don't think I'll every really go away - I have far to many good friends here, need the support that is most often found here, share way to many laughs here and enjoy the comraderie here much to much. They are stuck with me- I'm here when I'm here and when I'm not....I'll be back,
Love ya Mannnnnn - I'll see you FRIDAY night I hope.
(Why you gotta write a book - you know I can not help but slowly take in every word you write - a sistah is TIRED now)
I feel you - I find myself shaking my head on the sideline most often. It's not that I don't want to lend support and encouragement I - like you always feel the need to choose my words wisley so as not to be misunderstood. You see they can't see the mischief and twinkle in my eyes or yours when we say something off the cuff that could only be understood in real life and not in words on a screen. I so do not do drama and destest being in the midst of confusion.
I don't think I'll every really go away - I have far to many good friends here, need the support that is most often found here, share way to many laughs here and enjoy the comraderie here much to much. They are stuck with me- I'm here when I'm here and when I'm not....I'll be back,
Love ya Mannnnnn - I'll see you FRIDAY night I hope.
Peace & Blessings, Sharon
6 years and counting
6 years and counting
I am a selective poster....hell, lately I have been a selective BAFer ~roll eyes~
WHY? The word I so detest float around too much (*****HOE) and I just don't have the strength to teach women to remove that dayum word from their vocabulary ~sigh~
I like necessary drama (yes, some drama is necessary ~bwahhahaha~); but I don't like unecessary drama (like who sleeping with who and why)......I WILL READ IT, and may even reply to uplfit the offended.....but normally, that turns me away for a day or three.
I will not respond to questions folks already know the question to....like; my house on fire, do I call 911
, cause knowing me I would say "Nope, sing the roof the roof the roof is on fiyah, we don't need no wata let the mfer burn."
Just sooo much schitt irks me.....we've lost much and gained plenty on BAF so I am not complaining....I just take what I need and keep it moving!
I love your avie.
WHY? The word I so detest float around too much (*****HOE) and I just don't have the strength to teach women to remove that dayum word from their vocabulary ~sigh~
I like necessary drama (yes, some drama is necessary ~bwahhahaha~); but I don't like unecessary drama (like who sleeping with who and why)......I WILL READ IT, and may even reply to uplfit the offended.....but normally, that turns me away for a day or three.
I will not respond to questions folks already know the question to....like; my house on fire, do I call 911
, cause knowing me I would say "Nope, sing the roof the roof the roof is on fiyah, we don't need no wata let the mfer burn." Just sooo much schitt irks me.....we've lost much and gained plenty on BAF so I am not complaining....I just take what I need and keep it moving!
I love your avie.
I focus not on my disabilty; my focus is on my ABILITIES.
(Dedee, 2009)
My hearing impairment ENABLES me, not disables me.
(Dedee, 2008)
~Dedee
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