Another Question: When Did You Gain The Most Weight

The first major weight gain time came for me when I gained an even 100 pounds with my first born... went from 165 to 265..sukka for the cravings: mexican rice, burritos and doctored up top ramen

Lost it ALMOST was content wearing a size 14/16 for the longest of time)....then a sistah moved to the east coast and discovered all these different cusine: ox tails, stew chicken, spanish rice etc...so I put on about 35 pounds!

THENNNNNNN... my company relocates to Richmond, VA and was picking up the tab for my meals for the first 6 months!...so you know how WE do when food is free...LOL WHAM 50 pounds in 4 months... I was eating everything in sight!

2 years later had WLS..new chapter now 

Isn't that something how you can remember when it all began...just like when women know the exact night they got pregnant...LOL

So when was it for you? 

I was 7.5 months preggo before I found out............

So ummm - no 'fat beginning' for me either - fat baby, fat toddler, fat teen, fat young adult........

I gained steadily - no big gains except for freshman year in college where the freshman 15 majored in algebra and multiplied then factored themselves into 80........

See but even you childhood fatties still have a gain milestone... I guess its when you begin to question how you look

I really wasn't the one questioning - that was my damn MAMA!  I had titties in the first grade - she made a production out of me wearing a bra. 

In the 4th grade - I had my first shapewear panty and she made me wear jeans one size too small to 'encourage' me to lose weight.

In the summers from 4th to 8th grade - she would lock me outside of the house for 1hr minimum to force me to be active to lose weight.  I used to get my bike out of the outside shed where the deep freezer was and steal frozen choc chip cookie dough to eat in the park......


In the summer between 8th and 9th grade - she made me fast for 10 days to try to get me to lose - I stayed locked up in my room DREAMING of whoppers!

My mom made a BIG deal out of food and what I ate after a certain point - it was crazy dealing with her.  

Dang MM Moms gave you some serious head trips.... I really wonder how this is playing out with your daughter now... Now that will be some shiot to see down the line!

You know it is very likely that you will put the same head trip on her as your mother did to you?? 

OMG Ro - I work SO hard NOT to make a big deal out of food OR size to her - I just want her to be happy - now I DO have to control how many BAD snacks she tries to guzzle down - but I make sure her clothes FIT and I am not FORCING her to do anything - I try to maximize what SHE is drawn to.  

My mom would ALWAYS make comments about me getting fat, being fat, looking fat - told me several times EVERY day to 'suck in your stomach!'

I will KILL myself before I do that to my daughter! 

Isn't your daughter over-weight? 

I'm saying you do have to have some type of convo about it right? At some point you have to admit there is an elephant in the room right?  

The one thing your daughter does a have a leg up on is the fact that she got to see her mother carry herself confidently at various sizes...that means a whole lot to her 

yes - my daugther IS overweight - but not AS overweight as I was at her age.....

and yes - we have talked about it - CONSTRUCTIVELY.  I do not and will not put her on some deprevation program and say she is a loser until she is XX weight - I will NOT force her into a behavior patter just because I want to see her smaller.

What I HAVE done is discuss her HEALTH - and we talk about what things are GOOD and BAD for us to eat and do.  My mother just told me NO FOOD at all - she didn't try to get me into fruits and veggies - she shut it ALL off.... .what the **** imma learn from STARVING???

And YES - my daughter saw me at various sizes and sees me in the gym and watching what I eat - she makes better choices in food than I did - but I don't shut anything completely off - I don't want her feeling as if I control her through food.  That's what MY mama did with me.  

I am on my lap-top and STILL haven't mastered how to copy and paste a pic
<<>> yo moma EXCUSE the french but is ****** crazy.
 
Thankfully, you end up being a stable adult you had every reason in the world to have been on drugs, had about 7 kids, and/or living in the system. I could NEVER imagine anyone being that cruel to their kid, AND be able to sleep at night..SMH

I am so so thankful for my mother, I went over there today at lunch, because she wanted to cook for her only daughter. My mother picture should be next to the word mother in a dictionary.

Thankfully, I don't live in Houston although, I show ALL of my elders respect, your mom would just get a hi and bye from me. I REALLY commend you in being able to keep a relationship with your mother despite everything..

THANKFULLY, you're raising your baby in a total different direction my hats are off to you....

  Aww - thanks Rhonda.  Mofos be thinking I am trippin cause no way they think a mom could be THAT insane.....

I try to remember that my mom is broken - she had a lot of issues that SHE never dealt with and she projects onto me.  It's not right - but it's the REASON - the reason I don't go smooth off and kill her mother****** ass!  LMAOOOOO

And yes - because of everything I went through with my mom I am SUPER sensitive about my daughter - I don't want to EVER EVER EVER hurt her the ways I have been hurt - I could not crush her spirit and sleep at night - no way!!!

You mom sounds GREAT!!!  she need another kid???  LMAOOOOO