Those of you who have had surgery and those of you who are planning on it....

Congratulations on your upcoming surgiversery  You did your thing girl you should be very proud of yourself.  As far as the mental/emotional rollercoaster ride. I think about it like this. When I was pregnant with my daughter all I could think about was the fun stuff like holding her and shopping for clothes for her, and getting ready for her arrival. I could not wait. Everyone told me motherhood would be hard. And I knew it would. I witnessed it with others. But once I had her it was exactly the way I thought it would be. Lots of fun and joy.  And it was exactly what others told me it would be too. HARD. That's how I view this surgery. I have been on this site for months. I have read people's stories, I have talked to people online and in person. I have become very close to several people who have gone through this. I feel prepared mentally I really do. But guess what I also know that this is one of those things that until you actually go through it no one can really prepare you for it. So I am choosing to have this attitude about it I am prepared to seek help if and when I need it. I realize that this surgery is not just about the physical but my mental must be changed as well.

andrea you and I have discussed this before so I don't need to put my response down...juss sayin Hi!

Hey girlie  I was just thinking today its time for me to plan another trip to NYC. You must meet me there when I come. And bring the boy. LOL.

I want to say first and foremost...keep those dreams of you looking and feeling better to the forefront of your mind.  Those are the things that will keep you motivated if and when you get to a stall in your journey.      In fact write them down for easy reference.

As for me telling someone to kiss mine....never did that.  Actually any acknowledgement from anybody that didnt consider me before my surgery  went straight  to my ego and made me feel like " yeah I'm doing the dayum thing " 


As for me changing post surgery.....that has happened as well. Before I was sweet, unhealthy and defensive about my weight issues...Today Im still sweet,  sexy as all get out  and very proactive about getting healthy.  


Babygirl, everybody's experience is different.  We have the ability to control all of these things that you are concerned about.  We cant  control others.  The thing  to remember is that folks are gonna be as superfical as they have always been.  But in the end,  Its all about you  staying true and focused on your journey.  From reading your posts...I have every confidance that you can handle whoever and whatever comes your way on this journey.  

Thanks so much Pretty P. Man you are on fire today with your posts. I probably wouldn't literally tell someone to kiss my a$$ because thats not my style but I would think it in my head . Your post made a lot of sense and when I get home tonight I am going to sit down and journal what goals I have so I can look back at it when I get to my one year surgiversery. Thank you so much for your kind words and your support.

Can't say that I thought that way...I just took things as they came... pretty much how I live my life in general...LOL

I guess it is one of those things where I didn't want to expect too much for fear of disappointment and just be happy for what I did get 

Yeah I see what you mean. I guess its the whole counting the chickens before they hatch kinda of thing.

Still getting used to the "eyes bulging out the head" look. I prob would take it better if when I looked in the mirror I saw what they saw. I'll be glad when that happens. The first time I put on 14 jeans I took them off and on 2xs and looked at the tag to make sure.

I haven't hit anybody with the Mike Jones yet, but then again at a size 18 I got much play. Maybe when I get to an 8 it'll be different. I can't wait to get to the dayum single digits!

Girl you will be there in no time.

I hope so Andrea. Hey where are you at in the process?