Those of you who have had surgery and those of you who are planning on it....

Ok since I decided to have the surgery I have all kinds of daydreams that run through my head. I wonder about how small I get? I wonder how much energy will I have? (Because I have none right now) I wonder if my knee pain will go away? Will I stop snoring?  A lot of people have told me once I have the surgery watch out because I am going to have a lot of attention thrown my way. In my mind I feel like I am going to stay the same person that I am now and tell those who knew me when and try to holler when I am small to kiss my a$$. In my daydream I am very indignant about that. So my question for the group is did you feel similarly when you were in my shoes? And did you actually tell someone to kiss you a$$ when you got smaller because they tried to talk to you?

Ok, angelette it goes a little something like this.

You're having RNY, so I'd say you're sure to lose at least 90-100lbs.  The attention will come and while YOU know you are the same person, we live in a visual world.  Men that knew you before as cool and sweet Andrea will now be looking at fine as all hell Andrea.

It happened to me....did I tell them to kiss my butt?  Nah, people like what they like.  But they knew they couldn't even get in the running because I paid them no mind.

Please.  You didn't tell them to kiss your butt because you know one of those brothas would have been crazy enough to drop down to his knees and put a lip lock on one of your butt cheeks and left you with a hickey built for two. 

DOUBLE _Ayy you are stupid

BEING AN ASS MAN MYSELF DOUBLE AYY I FELL YA!!! NOT LITERALLY THOUGH!!! LMAO!!! YOUS A DAMN FOOL!!!

Ayy, I'm gonna pray for you, lol!

Thanks Necie for your input. But I often look at people who have lost weight and although they look good now I think they look good when they were heavier too. Why does skinny=beauty in this world. I have a real problem with a man that is so shallow that he wouldn't take the time out to get to know someone based solely on size. This society is so sick and twisted that it has my five year old daughter asking me is her thighs fat . I want a man who thinks outside the box and recognizes that true beauty comes from within.

Your absolutely right, but we can't control others....just ourselves.  Yes girl, Gaby told me she needs to go on a diet because Little Jose said she had a big butt.  (I ain't ready for this, lol)

The compliments and stares will be plentiful, but it is up to you to discern who among the crowd is genuine.

Ditto to everything you just said.

I sure as hell said kiss my a$$ to several men who would not give me a chance a couple of years ago.  In my Mike Jones voice..."back then you didn't want me and now I am hot they all on me"

I feel you completely Faith