What Would You Do?

Tough Love!!!!!   I did everything Shani said and it worked 2 1/2 years later.

You know what...Send her to job corps..

Actually I want to send her to Boot Camp but she is 18.  And I think with Job Corps, you can't have any kind of criminal background on ur record and she has been arrested a few times but nothing major.  Just failure to pay a fine.

They must have changed the rules because back in the 90s that was not one of the requirements. Judges used to send people to Job Corps. When it comes down to it, she is 18 and legally she doesn't have to go.

What would *I* do?

Do you REALLY want to know?!

After I beat her asse like a trick on the streets.....I would lay down MY LAWS.....I would ensure she knows the consequences of not following my law....hell, if you break the laws of the city, state, whatever, are you not punished? Well, I have the same LAWS in my house....in fact, I kicked K & K's asse last night ~roll eyes~ and Phil got in DJ's asse this morning....we got rules, you can't follow them, you will reap the repercussions!

For us, our rules are EVERYTHING in our home that is not a necessity, is a privilege. We, as your parents, are required to ensure you are provided with shelter, food, clothing!  That's it!  You can **** up, and that is all you will have.....if you grown and can't handle it....get gone, I don't want yo asse in my house anyway.....too many grown folks under one roof, to me, is a sin! ~Mfers don't know their place~

There is only one king and one queen in my house....errybody else are servants!

Get me, now!?  Take away the computer, the cell phone, etc! Let her see how good she has it!

Thanks Dedee! Thats what I plan to do.   Like I told everybody else on here,  hubby and I are gonna have a long discussion about what to do.  And I like what you said, There is only one king and one queen in my house....errybody else are servants!

I'm gonna have to make that my own slogan in my house!

As much as you care about hubby's opinion I would be inclined to leave him out of it. JMO He don't know your daughter from a can of paint. If I was her and already acting a fool, I def aint paying him any attention. You have lost control, he JUST got there. The problem is between you and her.

Yes, I agree with you... he just got here. But he has seen enough of what she is doing RIGHT NOW to see what she was doing BACK THEN.   The problem is between me and her, but I want my hubby's support regardless.  

I don't think I have lost control... I feel that I have done my part and I'm just not going to continue putting up with it.  I have went to every avenue there is to go to regarding this and it was always the same... can't do anything until she does something illegal.  The fact that she is 18 AND still in school is the only thing stopping me from putting her out. 

Even though you might need to be the primary enforcer, you will need your husbands support.  Your daughter's behavior affects him too.  Step family dymanics are already complicated even when there aren't behavior problems with the kids.  Difficult stepchildren can create tremendous amounts of conflict and break up a marriage if the spouses aren't in synch on the decisions that affect their household.

Exactly and I draw alot of support from him.  And I thank God that he is standing behind me and working with me through this.  But he does let me know that I have to step up and do as I say and not go back on my word which I do have a habit of doing sometimes.  The reason?  Tough love... I love my daughter and I want her to be successful..better than me.   And even though I cant put up with this behavior any longer,  I still don't want to see her out in the streets.