What Would You Do?

I hear you Dedee, it's just that I feel if I could hear, I would be able to know whats going on with my surroundings and the kids.  They kept alot from me that I didn't find out until other people were telling me.  Maybe, I'm saying it wrong, I don't know.  But I do know this, in no way, shape or form am I ashamed of my disability.  I'm just saying it has some impact on what's going on inmy household.  I do have eyes, and I'm not dumb or stupid.  I think it had to do with the fact that I was hardly home.  I was always working (sometimes double shift) and going to nursing school.  I was trying to be supermom I guess because I didn't have all of that growing up due to my daddy's alcoholic behavior (another story)....

But anyway, my hubby tells me the same thing you are saying about the crowd she hangs out with appeals to her.  But what I'm saying is, if the crowd she is hanging out with is what she wants to do then maybe she needs to go live with them.  Also he's telling me I need to stop being her friend and be a mother.  God knows I've tried so many times but she just couldn't see me as a mother.  She just looks at me as if I'm her bank account and driver. 

I'm not gonna go on and on about this but I agree with everything that you've said.   Just trying to determine what's the best solution because of that fact that she is 18 and still in school.  It's either clean up your mess and act right or get out. 

and Imma stop too LOL....Imma tell you like I told my sister.....because a child ***** up their life, does NOT mean you are a bad PARENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I mean that!

but YES, I do think some parents (my sister) are too busy trying to be their kids friends versus being their parent!

I am cool with all my nieces and nephews.....but they know where I draw the line!!!!  Same with my kids.....I'm like ~halllllllllllllllllllllltttttttttttttttttttttt~

My mom had all her hearing and I still kept stuff from her ~ducking~ That is what they do (I did it). It has nothing to do with your hearing at all!  Hell, my momma nosey asse friend told on me

Stuff like this makes me sooooo annoying because I on the other hand did not have it this easy growing up, caring parents and all this and that, I love my Mom to death now but growing up I used to ask God why he gave me the parents he did...Despite that and the fact that everyone around me having sex/kids. I graduated high school from an academics plus all girls school. Started college @ 17 and struggled through that to raise my 5 younger siblings but finally did it and now theyare all doing good because of what I did. Tell her about real life, better yet have her call me..lol..seriously..Kids just want to have fun but they have to realize that the fun comes after the books...First of all disconnect the phone and computer and give her no access...By all means DO NOT PUT HER OUT...Unless you feel threatened...Pull the old if you want to be grown I will treat you grown...Something is definitely missing from her life and you have to find out...Do not let her become a statistic...I feel so bad because I can only imagine...

Yes, that's what I plan to do.  Sometimes she used the internet to do her homework but I'm gonna have to tell her she's gonna have to go to the library to do it.  Because all this other stuff is just so out of control.  I want to see her graduate and be successful more than me.  But she is so far out there in the streets, it's hard to reel her back in.

She's beautiful, smart and she knows what she wants to do.  But right now, she's playing a dangerous game.  I may have to get tougher on her and make her start paying some rent.  Again, my main goal is to see her graduate but with the way she is going right now... I don't see it possible.

I am just realizing where you are located...

OH MY.......girl I am going to put yall on the prayer line.  I have a 9 year old and I would just die.  I will keep you two in my prayers.  Keep us posted....I want to hear the end result because I might need the same advise one day.

Yes, I have a 10 year old daughter and a 15 year old son.  They pick up what their older sister does so I'm trying to remain a positive role model in their lives.

Hey Tonya

I can tell you what I would do; but I won't because I don't have any children.  So I am here just to give you a hug!!  (((((((((((((((TONYA))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks Nikki! I need it!

I say tough love. It's Feb now, graduation isn't that far away. But in the meantime I would show her tough love. Somewhere along the lines you let her run over you instead of nippin it in the bud. Cell phone.....cut off. Internet.....take the router with you to work or put a password on the signal that is secret from her. Coming in late....shoot, change the locks and don't give her a key. Door gets locked for good at 10P...you aint home by then, tough luck. She'll get the mesage. My moms aint play, and I tried to get buck on her in high school....oh she had something for me!!!