Cute in the face but....

I hear so many women complain that men have made the comment that they are "cute in the face"  and feel it's rude.  I wonder how many women have made this comment or thought this about a man?

I just found myself guilty of that very thing.  A guy just approached me in the lobby of my office building and I thought to myself "dayum handsome face but...."  and I kept it moving because I'm just not into heavy men.  Was I thinking I was too good for him?  No...I was thinking that I've never been into heavy men and can't imagine one laying on me or having to go through the extra work to get to his goodies.  I'd of course never tell a man this because to me...THAT is rude but the simple act of thinking it and knowing my preference I don't consider that bad because I realize that I'm not every man's cup of tea and knowing that doesn't offend me as I believe everyone has that right. 

I guess my question ladies is does it offend you because they tell you or because you know?

Well Mrs D thankfully I was always told as a child and teenager that I was pretty and even was nicknamed pretty girl...Never thought it was that deep...Now being older I hear it a lot from people "You have a pretty face". I do not think that it is totally rude because it is a natural thing but I guess if someone approached me and said that you have a pretty body I would feel like damn is that all you notice...It is simpler to just say you are pretty and that is that. It sounds better. I am not into heavy men either but like a stocky guy...I prefer somewhere in the middle but not big/fat...No offense.

My dad always told he I would be cute if I just lost some weight.  I've had guys say I have a cute face.  I used to take that but not anymore.  I've never thought that about a heavy guy.  To me you're either cute or not.  Now being attracted to someone is something different.  I've never been into heavy men but if he was cute, had a good heart, financially stable, and I was attracted to him...believe I'd get with him.

Apple you do have a cute face. I don't think that so one should be offended  by some one saying u have a cute face. Skinny doesn't  make a face cute . People  like what they like. Happy monday.

Thanks...I don't mind the cute face...it's the "but" that always follows that annoys me

As someone who has heard "decent face, but wtf from the neck down...."  I always though it interesting when bigger women were grossed out by me.  While outwardly, I was cordial, even thinking "Well, everyone is entitled to their preferences", INWARDLY I was thinking, "Well, dayum.  Who the FUGG are you to think you're too good for me???" 

Granted, I had my share of relationships and was even married for eleven years.  Even now, I find it HYSTERICAL that some of those same chicas who turned their noses up at me (or would have, then) suddenly find me "presentable".  

For me, I now take it all in stride, externally.  INTERNALLY, on the other hand?  "I can't be bothered."  LOL. 

But why does it boils down to "Who the FUGG are you to think you're too good for me???" 

I'd think it more a matter of attaction and a person can't help who attracts them.  I honestly think it would be more of a case if the person was trying to be purposely nasty by telling you.

I agree with U miz D its only offensive if you  tell them.

Miz D,

I didn't have a problem with what was said,  only HOW it was said.  I can't speak to how men are when it comes to rejection (since I've never dated one. lol), but women can be cold / mean-spirited with theirs.  Its in these cases where I get a little peeved. 

I learned a long time ago that when it comes down to relationships, I , as a man, can want someone all I want.  If they don't find me worthy, however, it simply isn't happening.  Having said that, its one thing to not be attracted to someone.  Its completely another to purposely be hurtful when saying what one says. 

Now that I think of it, I guess there are just as many "males" (as opposed to MEN) who do this type of thing as well.

eta: for example, there was one woman who I was terribly attracted to a few years before I was married.  Apparently, this was someone who was totally grossed out by the fact that I was even looking in her direction to the point that in the midst of conversation / telling me off, at one point she's like, "I don't know anyone would want your sloppy ass anyway.  You look like the (effin) StayPuffMarshmellow Man..." 

Hey...women are never cold/mean-spirited...lol!

But wow...she had issues.