Scared to death

I am going to have my Surgery soo and I am filled with mixed emotions.  I keep scaring myself. Everyone I talk to about the surgey is happy and say they will do it again in a heartbeat.  I don't know if its the idea of the body changes or just the possiblites of what can go wrong.  I think I really just need to sit down and pray cause i know this is what I need to do cause I have been wanting to do this for some time. I just hope all turns out right.

it never fails...everyone gets nervous as their surgery time approaches...im sure you have thought it out for a long time...your making the right decision...and if you picked a good surgeon the chances of something going wrong are really slim... just pray about it and relax...your feelings are normal....and when you have the surgery and wake up in recovery you are going to be so happy that its over with and the nerves will be gone for good...

Whatever it is in you that is making you scared you need to face it and conquer it because so many emotional things happen after WLS and having regrets is not somthing that you want. Know that you want this.  Writing the pro's and con's and see what you come up with might be a good idea. 

Being scared is natural no matter what it is that we are about to put our bodies through.  I don't know if you have kids or not but just think about that. Having a baby changes your body forever and you could die. If you have had any other kinds of surgeries in the past you might have an idea of how your body may react to this change.

I cried a few times the days before my surgery because I kept dwelling on the worst that could happen and thought "I don't want to leave my kids without a mommy," and "maybe I shouldn't do this?"  I kept God on my mind and just kept thinking of how soo many people were praying for me and supported me on this site, then I realized that God didn't bring me this far to leave me and I am not going to miss my chance at a healthier me.  

I just knew that I was scaring  myself by listening to all the horror stories and saying OMG what if that happens to me; even thought it is a reality that we have to think about. The night before surgery I cleared my mind and focused on getting ready for the stay at the hospital and my mom stayed the night (she is a missionary) which made me feel 100% better. 

Everything went well from the moment I arrived at the hospital, the I V didn't even hurt which made me feel even more comfortable.  I had no complications, God watched over me and I thank him for allowing me to be one that will have a story to tell of how I took the chance of a lifetime to get "ME"back. 
Having kids was more painful and took longer for me to recooperate from.

Well enough about me, but I just know that all of us have felt that feeling and it may or may not pass but you have to do what's right for you cause WLS isn't for everyone. 

Just ask yorself if you will be willing to take whatever may come your way afterwards.  Hope this helped.

I propably can't add anything to what's already been said...but I just wanted to let you know I'm praying for you antionettet...

I'm with Birdman....be still and listen the prayers are going up for you.  God will be with you and guide the surgeons hands.  You are in my prayers Antionettet.


~Maxine

Just about everyone goes through an array of emotions prior to WLS and sometimes after having WLS.  I will pray that your fears will subside.

Hi Antionette,
I Just had my surgery on Monday and trust me, I know all too well what you're feeling.  I had those feelings until the anesthesia knocked me out.  When I was in pre op I was wondering what the hell am I about to do to myself.  It was just this overwhelming sense of being unprepared. 

I even went so far as to make legal arrangements for the custody of my daughter, "In the event that I didn't make it".

Needless to say I am still here so I can only assume that it is completely normal to feel this way.  My father is a physician and he told me that they are usually skeptical of people who are not worried.

You will be fine, I'm praying for you.

Sending up love and prayers that he calms your spirit 

Everyone has given you some good advice so I am just going to offer you some encouragement and hugs ......dont worry you will do just fine

Picture yourself and your health a year from now if you have the surgery....now picture yourself if you don't. You will be fine. I will keep you lifted in prayer.