I Only Liked it...So I didn't put a ring on it!

Destiny Fulfilled
on 1/29/09 10:44 pm - Washington, DC
I don't usually post, but I thought this was phenomenal so I had to share.

This may speak volumns to some and whisper to others but Read the letter CAREFULLY ladies! 

 I Only Liked It....So I Didn't Put A Ring On It 

 Dear (Ex) Love,

We need to talk. Judging from the voicemail you just left me, I'm starting to believe that this Beyonce song, "Single Ladies…Put A Ring On It" has you confused about the true nature of our past and present relationship. When we decided to part ways, it was admittedly difficult for the both of us. I mean, let's face it; all of the time and energy that we invested in our relationship made it hard to imagine life without you. In the end though, we both know that it was the right thing to do.

Did I miss you? Of course I did—which is why I let my emotions get the best of me when I saw you with that guy last night. I can own up to the fact that my behavior was wrong, but your response was way out of line. To suggest that I had no room to get angry because I never asked you to marry me … well that's just ridiculous. But if you really want to play that game, then let me explain to you t he real reasons that I never popped the question.

1. I will only place a ring on the finger of a woman that I deeply love and want to spend the rest of my life with. Unfortunately, you never crossed that threshold.

2. You never had a plan for your life. You were just content with us being together, which would be cool if we were 19 or 20, but we're not—so that's not.

3. We lived together, slept together, ate together. And after experiencing all of that, there was still something deep inside of me that wasn't convinced that you were the one. The familiarity kept the relationship going, but it wasn't enough to make me pull the trigger.

4. Your insecurities pushed me away. No matter how much I tried to love you, you never thought you were good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough for me. At first it was understandable, considering the tough relationship that you had just come out of. But three years later, we shouldn't have been dealing with the same self -esteem issues that we faced on day one.

5. Your idea of marriage and family wasn't a partnership, but a carefully laid out plan that you created—all on your own. I didn't want to hear that "this is the way it's going to be with my husband and my kids." Over time, it became clear that you wanted a "yes man" instead of a partner, and I just wasn't interested in that type of position.

So I guess with all of those reasons, what I'm really trying to say is: I ONLY liked it … and that's why I didn't put a ring on it.

I hope I've made things clear.
ATL Diva 2009
on 1/29/09 10:48 pm - Lawrenceville, GA
So very true on SO many levels

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PrettyPlum
on 1/29/09 11:30 pm
Wow !

I like how the author attempts to explain why some of the brothers decide not to committ, but clearly,  it dosent speak to the whole picture cause we all know that some of the brothers dont come correct themselves. 



Introspection, however is always a good thing when we are ready to own up to what could have been done or said to make something short and sweet.....long and great !  


Thanks for sharing this insightful piece pretty lady
(deactivated member)
on 1/30/09 12:36 am
Clearly someone had alot of time on their hands.  I get the meaning and all and I guess it's better than them making a comeback song of Beyonce's song.

I guess it is food for thought but that doesn't describe every relationship that doesn't end in marriage but oh well, it was entertaining.
ValueMe
on 1/30/09 2:37 am
Heck, that could be a TD Jakes sermon AND a Betty Wright song! 

 

 

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