OT: Ungrateful Kids

I hear you.  But honestly I don't regret anything I have given them.  I give it out of love.  I want to make sure they have access to things but appreciate balance. 

Brenda,

Mine are the saaaaaaaaaaaaaaame way!!!!!!!!!! Dont feel like the Lone Ranger. I have 3 SPOILED ass youngins, and sometimes it ****** me off at how NONCHALANT and ungrateful they are. Its like the bar has been raised sooooooooo high, that NOTHING impresses them. I broke my back trying to find all these PSP this, and PSP that, and giving 35 and 40 dollars for these little bullshyt games, and now I find them under the couch, or in the back seat of my car,, where they havent even kept up with the mess.

And get this, yesterday they woke up ARGUING about games and mess, and I was up WHOOPING ALL THREE OF THEY ASSES, at 622am!!!!!!!!!   They know I gotta go to work!!!!!!!!!!!

Shyt,, took me almost an hour to get BACK to SLEEP!!!!!   LOL,,, I told my wife THAT was my workout for the day!!!

6:22 in the morning, and Im up beating kids asses. After three asswhoopings,, i was TIRED!!!

Im with you sista on this one. And another thing,,, why dont my kids have ANY imagination???? We used to play out in the yard with NOTHING. Now they got trampolines, jungle gyms, basketball goals,,, and claim "aint nothing to do outside"  WTF??!!!???@


Que

I hear you, and trust me I do punish my kids and try to teach them life balance.  Like you it just ****** me off when they don't take care of their stuff.

Brenda you are not alone............I thought it was just me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEAH I don't feel so bad. Now I buy more than 1 DVD because I know one is going to be broke in a matter of months. This past Christmas I brought my 8 yr old a DVD player, but it was only 39.00.  I can't tell you what number DVD player he is on.  One year when he was about 3 or 4 I couldn't get the DVD player to open. I took it to the repair shop and when he opened it he discovered pieces of a Peanut butter and jelly sandwhich inside. Needless to say I had to put the DVD players out of reach. I KNOW MY KIDS ARE UNGRATEFUL.  I try to teach them to be appreciative but I created those monsters, and they are MY MONSTERS.  Nine times out of ten when they ask I supply.
 
Example #1 of how ungrateful my kids are: About 3-4 yrs ago I brought my then 10 yr old a 20 in flat screen TV (black Friday sale under 100 bucks). He opened the box and said, "Wow thanks Mom, but why is it so small didn't they have a bigger one." I almost fell out.  Example #2 My 14 yr old just got a PS3 for Christmas his birthday is in 2 weeks, he asked for another ****LOAD of stuff for his Birthday, this doesn't include the ****LOAD that he received for Christmas.

I have a warped sense of "safeness". I think that if I provide them with everything and provide them with a great life inside my little safe bubble then they will never get hurt.  I know it's not true

I don't know how to make my kids more appreciative without telling them "no".  So instead of saying no I say, Let mommy think about it......LOL LOL

My question is: Is it possible to give your kids everything they want and have a healthy balance of appreciation? Can you have both?

Tia

Tia,

You know we both know better, and I too feel like if I provide their wants and needs then I not only don't have to worry about them being hurt, I don't have to worry about them using people for things, or stealing.  My sister-in-law doesn't really give her kids a lot of their wants, she always says its her job to supply the needs.  I cant tell you how many times her kids have been caught stealing stuff.  I don't want my kids coveting other peoples things.

My daughter is 2 1/2 and she has one of those mini 8 inch screen portable DVD players, my mom got it for her for XMAS.  She loves it and for the most part does pretty well with it, especially considering her age. She got movies also. We are teaching her how to take care of them and all of that...the worst she does it sticky fingerprints on her disks, but hey, she's 2. If she acts stupid that thing disappears with a QUICKNESS. We do go 'all out' for her on b-days and for XMAS, but that is really only about $200 or so, maybe a bit less. She really doesn't get anything outside of those 2 occasions. Maybe something small occasionally but that is all. I don't want her getting every little thing she wants all of the time.

Thanks Valena.  I am taking it all in and will be making changes.

girl listen those babies are too young to comprehend such a thing...they're babies..they're gonna break shiot...lol...i know it's frustrating at times but yet some things should not even be in their reach...in my opinion a dvd player is one of those things...and girl let me tell you if you bend yr neck to buy them everything under the sun now you will be broke as hell as they grow older...there is nothing wrong with spoiling our children and wanting them to have a good life..however we as parents must set limits!! i come to you as a single mom of five..ages 20-3...so i've been where you are a few times or so...lol..and the only way for them to have the values that you want is for you to teach them those values..

now i suggest you go out and buy one of those fisher price dvd players...they can go through damn near anything and survive...

Be blessed.
ms.Cleo

I may have to buy those fisher price ones, it will save me in the long run.

OK - side note what were you thinking with that big old gap.  I can tell you when I am lucky enough to see them close to grown I darn sure wont be starting over (anyway I will be way too old then)  LOL.

Also, thank you for admitting you been where I am.  Some of these responses make me feel like I am being a bad mother because I want to provide nice things for the kiddos.

no problem....none of us are given instruction manuals at the time of birth so we live and learn...


OK - side note what were you thinking with that big old gap. I can tell you when I am lucky enough to see them close to grown I darn sure wont be starting over (anyway I will be way too old then) LOL.

girl i dunno....lol i was almost there...but i love it...i would have 6 more if i could..