Relationship Question
Of course it's possible not to see when a relationship is about to end. You can know it's bad, not working for either of you but it's hard to know what's going to break the camel's back and someone says enough. This is especially if things have been going down hill for a long time. Yeah you can get blind sided because you probably thought not today. JMHO
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OK, I can get with that you know its bad but you don't know that TODAY is the day the other person says ENOUGH! Sort of like he sitting back thinking, man i thought she was gonna take my shiot forever.
Thanks for shedding some light.
Thanks for shedding some light.
Working on me - want to be better in everyway not just physically!!! Its a process no time to judge or be judged!!!!
Some people are so good at hiding the truth that they begin to believe the lies they sell. Did Bernadine see John leaving her on New Year's Eve? Yes, that was fiction but how many men/women have been in relationships that ended and they didn't have a clue that the end was near?
Now, its different when a person is stepping out in the relationship. Yet, sometimes people don't even have a clue that is going on. Women are good at cheating and hiding it. Men usually get caught.
Long story short, yes it is possible to NOT see the end. If both people are still doing what they normally do, going where they normally go and still having regular "relations," then one day someone says I can't do this anymore. Where are the clues? A person will wreck their brain trying to figure out what they missed. Did they miss a hand gesture? a wandering eye? a cellphone call that was answered in another room? WHAT??? and honestly, they didn't miss anything...
Lena
It is not the load that breaks you down; it's the way you carry it. -Lena Horne
Lena,
There are plenty of other ways a relationship can end besides cheating, as you know, from such things as physical, mental and verbal abuse, finances, total lack of respect and any number of other reasons.
I think there are always subtle clues..the attention one used to get isn't gotten any longer. The little "just because" gifts, for example cease. Meaningful, loving conversation turns into routine, small talk. Things like that.
As for women being good at cheating, there is basically ONE thing that separates a woman from a man in that regard: a man doesn't think his woman would possibly cheat on him..which, in my opinion, is foolish...especially in this day and age. Because he doesn't think she WOULD, he doesn't go to the lengths she usually would to find out. Why? Cuz intuition isn't limited only to women. Most men are to egotistical to follow their intuition where their wives/girlfriends are concerned.
There are plenty of other ways a relationship can end besides cheating, as you know, from such things as physical, mental and verbal abuse, finances, total lack of respect and any number of other reasons.
I think there are always subtle clues..the attention one used to get isn't gotten any longer. The little "just because" gifts, for example cease. Meaningful, loving conversation turns into routine, small talk. Things like that.
As for women being good at cheating, there is basically ONE thing that separates a woman from a man in that regard: a man doesn't think his woman would possibly cheat on him..which, in my opinion, is foolish...especially in this day and age. Because he doesn't think she WOULD, he doesn't go to the lengths she usually would to find out. Why? Cuz intuition isn't limited only to women. Most men are to egotistical to follow their intuition where their wives/girlfriends are concerned.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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gm, Lena (I had an aunt with that name- :) )
Yes, I read it . I got so carried away with my answer, I neglected to answer that other paragraph.
Along the lines of intuition, your gut is ALWAYS going to tell you something is wrong or different or whatever. Whether we choose to listen to the intuition, on the other hand, is something else
Yes, I read it . I got so carried away with my answer, I neglected to answer that other paragraph.
Along the lines of intuition, your gut is ALWAYS going to tell you something is wrong or different or whatever. Whether we choose to listen to the intuition, on the other hand, is something else
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
yes i do believe someone can be clueless... i don't belive its due to ignorance or not even paying attention...life just somehow seems to get in the way sometimes. we get so busy with work, children and outside obligations...we put home on the backburner. not saying it doesn't some first...but we just get caught up with life. we don't make time for the late night talks anymore...or the frequent phone calls throughout the day just to say hello. you assume yr SO know's you love him or her...they'll understand if you work late again tonight or if i hang with boys/girls instead..but in all reality they don't...someone usually feels neglected and unfortunatley for some they never saw it coming...
have a good night
have a good night
"He who binds to himself a joy doth the winged life destroy. But he who kisses the joy as it flies lives in Eternity's sunrise."~William Blake
Uhhhh yea dude - the handwritting be on the wall - you can't just go scrubbing it off all the time.
I haven't ever been surprised - but then - until now my relationships have been like warranties..... 90 days or less..... LOL!!!!!
I haven't ever been surprised - but then - until now my relationships have been like warranties..... 90 days or less..... LOL!!!!!
I don't just have issues, I have subscriptions! I'm saving on the newsstand price....... 
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Good morning Dwayne,
Good question. What I find is that you definitely know the relationship is about to end. There are way to many signs for you NOT to know. However, when you "don't" want to see the signs, you won't. My BFF is in one of those relationships, her boyfriend is so blind to the fact that she's "not there", anymore that it's almost sickening. I have said everything in the world to him to get him to back off and take a look, but he won't.
I knew when my relationship was at it's end. Me and my ex, it might not have ended the right way, but it ended just the same and it was the best move for both of us.
I do feel bad, when folks just won't let go of what is NOT working or they are just too blind to see it's over.
So in retrospect, there is NO blindsided(ness)! You see, you feel and you know it's coming....
Good question. What I find is that you definitely know the relationship is about to end. There are way to many signs for you NOT to know. However, when you "don't" want to see the signs, you won't. My BFF is in one of those relationships, her boyfriend is so blind to the fact that she's "not there", anymore that it's almost sickening. I have said everything in the world to him to get him to back off and take a look, but he won't.
I knew when my relationship was at it's end. Me and my ex, it might not have ended the right way, but it ended just the same and it was the best move for both of us.
I do feel bad, when folks just won't let go of what is NOT working or they are just too blind to see it's over.
So in retrospect, there is NO blindsided(ness)! You see, you feel and you know it's coming....
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