Get yo azz off my husband....
I mean how dumb can you get. No matter how good you look if something else good walks past he's going to look. If you let it get touch your man he will rise to the occasion, unless he is dead.
I say if you don't KNOW the outcome don't put yourself in the position. He would never ok something like that for me and vice versa.
Z
I say if you don't KNOW the outcome don't put yourself in the position. He would never ok something like that for me and vice versa.
Z
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HW: 280 - LW: 190 - GW - 180
Unfilled 8/15/11 - WT: 209
1st Fill 11/29/11 - WT: 215.5 - 3cc
2/20/12 - New Goal - Get n Onederland
2nd Fill 4/26/12 - WT: 224.0 - 3cc
Z
Hi... I'm not Madame. I'm her husband, Jon. Madame shared this topic with me and, having some insight, she allowed my once again to allow me to voice my take:
First and foremost - the wife is dead wrong. Wrong. How is she going to punish a husband with denying him the privilege of touching her for enjoying his birthday present that SHE arranged for him? That, is what we men consider "playing games with his head". SHE is responsible for everything that’s going on here... or better said, her insecurity is responsible. She could have bought him tickets to a game; taken him to dinner or bought him a new set of golf clubs but nooooooooooo.... she gets the bright idea to take him to a strip joint. Surprise! Not satisfied, she goes even further and pays for a lap dance for him - but before she even took him out there, she needed to be sure she could handle the sight of Peaches the Dancer all up on her man, but because she didn't do her emotional homework, she makes him pay?
That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
This is not HIS failing.... it's hers. As Madame stated, I’ve sent her to see the dancers regularly and made sure she had dollars to spend – and yes, it starts with an emotional gut-check (I KNOW what the male dancer do at shows), but this is where she needed to have to asked herself what it is that she fears the most here…is it that next to Peaches, she won’t stack up? She should assess the fabric of her husband and then look down at her ring – there lies her answer. Ole Peaches doesn’t hold a candle to the woman he married.
The Facts:
It’s ALL about the fantasy
That’s right, it is. You can even call it foreplay, but there is no "next level" because if he is a good man, he's going home. To his woman. NOW... there are some men who "go there" with a dancer who has made the leap from dancer to prostitute. But, if a woman REALLY thinks her man is of such low quality as to stoop that low... why in the heck is she buying him lap dances in the first place. ("Why is she still with him in the first place?" is perhaps a better question) It’s just fantasy, and if her man is a good man – it stays that way.
It’s SUPPOSED to be stimulating
Duh. If she wanted him NOT to enjoy it, she should have told the dancer up front to make it a crappy lap dance– I sure she didn’t ever want to be accessory to the wife’s drama. Having her buy him a lap dance could have been one of the sexiest things she could have done, and the stimulation, in the end, would have been all about her. Darn shame she screwed it up.
She don’t want yo' man
This is a woman who probably bumps and grinds on 20 to 30 laps a night. This might be a party for your man but it’s nothing but a job to her. They often see the worst maleness has to offer and rarely see better than horny ass frat boys and are frankly tired of us once the work night is over. Many dancers I’ve known prefer the company of women in their beds and the ones who still have a taste for men, often have drama plagued, turbulent relationships. Her husband is just a tip, and it’s her job to appear attracted to him and anyone else with a few dollar bills to slip in her garter. Her man is safe, believe me.
The way she SHOULD have gone
If she wanted to give him the strip joint experience, but couldn’t handle the reality… why couldn’t SHE have given him a lap dance? SHE would have been who he would have rather had writhing about on his lap, than some stray chick named after fruit. Fact is, in the end, as I said before, it should have been all about him and in turn, all about her. A chair, something sexy from Fredricks, a few tunes from Prince would blow the husbands mind. It would have been THAT easy.
Careful the lesson you teach us men…
We men aren’t all as obtuse as some women would like to think – we observe reactions and we learn what we can and cannot share with our women. She just taught him to guard his reactions from her, and to be wary of enjoying these kinds of surprises from her. She's taught him that he can’t trust her to really “be okay" when she says “I’m okay with it". As much as women hold trust dear, she’s eroded a little bit of his trust in her. Besides… how can she dictate how to enjoy a lap dance to a man who was old enough to go to strip joints before she was even born?
The failing is that she wanted to “be okay" but in the end she broke the only rule that matters – she wasn’t honest with him and most importantly - to herself.
First and foremost - the wife is dead wrong. Wrong. How is she going to punish a husband with denying him the privilege of touching her for enjoying his birthday present that SHE arranged for him? That, is what we men consider "playing games with his head". SHE is responsible for everything that’s going on here... or better said, her insecurity is responsible. She could have bought him tickets to a game; taken him to dinner or bought him a new set of golf clubs but nooooooooooo.... she gets the bright idea to take him to a strip joint. Surprise! Not satisfied, she goes even further and pays for a lap dance for him - but before she even took him out there, she needed to be sure she could handle the sight of Peaches the Dancer all up on her man, but because she didn't do her emotional homework, she makes him pay?
That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
This is not HIS failing.... it's hers. As Madame stated, I’ve sent her to see the dancers regularly and made sure she had dollars to spend – and yes, it starts with an emotional gut-check (I KNOW what the male dancer do at shows), but this is where she needed to have to asked herself what it is that she fears the most here…is it that next to Peaches, she won’t stack up? She should assess the fabric of her husband and then look down at her ring – there lies her answer. Ole Peaches doesn’t hold a candle to the woman he married.
The Facts:
It’s ALL about the fantasy
That’s right, it is. You can even call it foreplay, but there is no "next level" because if he is a good man, he's going home. To his woman. NOW... there are some men who "go there" with a dancer who has made the leap from dancer to prostitute. But, if a woman REALLY thinks her man is of such low quality as to stoop that low... why in the heck is she buying him lap dances in the first place. ("Why is she still with him in the first place?" is perhaps a better question) It’s just fantasy, and if her man is a good man – it stays that way.
It’s SUPPOSED to be stimulating
Duh. If she wanted him NOT to enjoy it, she should have told the dancer up front to make it a crappy lap dance– I sure she didn’t ever want to be accessory to the wife’s drama. Having her buy him a lap dance could have been one of the sexiest things she could have done, and the stimulation, in the end, would have been all about her. Darn shame she screwed it up.
She don’t want yo' man
This is a woman who probably bumps and grinds on 20 to 30 laps a night. This might be a party for your man but it’s nothing but a job to her. They often see the worst maleness has to offer and rarely see better than horny ass frat boys and are frankly tired of us once the work night is over. Many dancers I’ve known prefer the company of women in their beds and the ones who still have a taste for men, often have drama plagued, turbulent relationships. Her husband is just a tip, and it’s her job to appear attracted to him and anyone else with a few dollar bills to slip in her garter. Her man is safe, believe me.
The way she SHOULD have gone
If she wanted to give him the strip joint experience, but couldn’t handle the reality… why couldn’t SHE have given him a lap dance? SHE would have been who he would have rather had writhing about on his lap, than some stray chick named after fruit. Fact is, in the end, as I said before, it should have been all about him and in turn, all about her. A chair, something sexy from Fredricks, a few tunes from Prince would blow the husbands mind. It would have been THAT easy.
Careful the lesson you teach us men…
We men aren’t all as obtuse as some women would like to think – we observe reactions and we learn what we can and cannot share with our women. She just taught him to guard his reactions from her, and to be wary of enjoying these kinds of surprises from her. She's taught him that he can’t trust her to really “be okay" when she says “I’m okay with it". As much as women hold trust dear, she’s eroded a little bit of his trust in her. Besides… how can she dictate how to enjoy a lap dance to a man who was old enough to go to strip joints before she was even born?
The failing is that she wanted to “be okay" but in the end she broke the only rule that matters – she wasn’t honest with him and most importantly - to herself.
this post Im about to write, will probably get me blasted--cuz this BAF is full of black women.
But so what,, here it goes.
The strip clubs aint NO place for ANY women,,, if they aint dancing!!!! Dont bring your wife, girlfriend,, significant other,,, WHATEVER.
Cant brothas have SOME place to go? I mean,, what is the point of bringing your WIFE to a strip club? Ive NEVER gotten that. And Lord knows, now the strip club,, is worse than the club!!! You got more women going with "their man" to the damn strip club. You have gay women(got NOTHING against gay women) but they sitting they ass up on the strip clubs,, commenting on how YOU not tipping?
WTF????
IMO,, he SHOULD have his ass in ho****er with his wife,, cuz he should NOT have taken her in the first place!!! She aint no where ELSE to go?
Now,, I know my opinion is mine,, but I know its shared by other men--cuz I have heard it. But for him to take her, and WONDER why she pissed off,, is stupid to me. And for her to pay the stripper,,then get MAD cuz she doing her thang,,, is stupid too.
Men,, MAN UP and keep SOME things to ya damn self!!!!!
Que
But so what,, here it goes.
The strip clubs aint NO place for ANY women,,, if they aint dancing!!!! Dont bring your wife, girlfriend,, significant other,,, WHATEVER.
Cant brothas have SOME place to go? I mean,, what is the point of bringing your WIFE to a strip club? Ive NEVER gotten that. And Lord knows, now the strip club,, is worse than the club!!! You got more women going with "their man" to the damn strip club. You have gay women(got NOTHING against gay women) but they sitting they ass up on the strip clubs,, commenting on how YOU not tipping?
WTF????
IMO,, he SHOULD have his ass in ho****er with his wife,, cuz he should NOT have taken her in the first place!!! She aint no where ELSE to go?
Now,, I know my opinion is mine,, but I know its shared by other men--cuz I have heard it. But for him to take her, and WONDER why she pissed off,, is stupid to me. And for her to pay the stripper,,then get MAD cuz she doing her thang,,, is stupid too.
Men,, MAN UP and keep SOME things to ya damn self!!!!!
Que
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