Get yo azz off my husband....

This is based on a true story…LOL. So, a wife takes her husband to a Gentlemen’s club (they have talked about lots of  things they have not explore with anyone else). Prior to going, they have discussed him getting a lap dance. They are enjoying the club (upscale/nice) having a few drinks talking, enjoying the dancing. The wife goes to the restroom, before returning to the table SHE has instructed a dancer (one that he has comment on as being attractive) to give her husband a lap dance. She told the dancer to start the dance without her being present but would return to the table a few minutes into the dance.  As she returns, the dancer (topless) is doing her thing. All is good until the husband starts to rub and touch the dancer. The wife becomes upset; she does not stop the show or express any emotions. However, a few minutes later, they must leave because she is upset/too angry to stay. She felt that her husband crossed the line by showing affection (touching, closing eyes and becoming stimulated) with the dancer.   So now, she is not allowing him to touch her, she feels that he would/could possibly have gone to the next level with this woman.  

What are your thoughts on this?

Who crossed the line? 

Would you be able to go to a club with your spouse/significant other and allow this? If yes, would there be rules?

Sounds like she got what she paid for.

I couldn't agree more. 

My my the wife of course shouldn't have agreed to it if she wasn't comfortable.  What did she expect for him to do?  Maybe they shoud have discussed the do's and the don'ts before hand.  
IDK that's a tricky one.

It is something they had discussed in the pass, she thought she would be ok with it.  But, upon seeing it she was not.  It was planned, she decide to suprise him for his 50th birthday. 

They should have defined the rules first, however, he should have respected his wife enough to know to keeps hands off. She should be mildly upset about that but to go to the would/could/possibly  level and withholding is just taking it too far. Not to mention possibly driving him to doing just what she was worried he might have done.

Well IMO

...letting a topless stripper do a LAP dance  on a MAN and telling him "DON'T TOUCH and DON'T LET YOUR MAN MAN GET HAPPY!!" is like placing a cake  on a kid's lap  and saying "DON'T EAT!!"

That shyt aint going to happen.  She should have gotten her a male strippa' and went on with her business....

Again IMO...

Desire, that was what I suggested.  She should not have let him know that she was upset about it, just next time take him  to a club and see how he would respond.  This man really loves her, she is drop dead gorgeous, just a little bit  young.

Ah ha.  She's young and pretty.
She expected him to reject the stripper for her.  It backfired.

You have a point, she is very pretty and spoiled, she's 28 and he is 50 ( very handsome).