Not doin too good...

hey guys,

I have been eating like i never even had surgery.. ice cream cookies, chips, werther's originals....

I dont want to fall into no downward spiral but it has been very very very hard since losing my brother... and i am returning to emotionally eating. this event is really testing my mettle..


My weight is stalling, it has been almost .6 months and im down about 76 lbs..
what do i do during this time trying to fight the sadness and the emotional eating and snacking... i am rying to up my water intake and remember my vites, but sometimes i actually am skipping meals. help me with some advice i feel so out of controllll

first i would like to say im sorry to hear about your brother. I know this has to be very hard on you..but think about it...by eating based on emotions are you making yourself feel any better?? all your doing is making your self feel worse and stressing yourself out more. I havent had to deal with the pain of losing someone that close to me so im not sure if this will help. but maybe you can try writing down your feelings instead of eating through the pain.... and try to do things to keep your mind off of it. I dont know what your religion teaches but all hope is not lost for your brother. try to think positively and realize that he is not in pain or suffering. I hope you can get through this emotional time in your life. and always knw we are here to help you

Greetings,
I am about 7 months out.  I am at a point that if i want to get bad things I can, but i have to choose not to.  Surgery canot change you habits.  It was the hardest thing for me not to emotionaly eat, because how was i sapposed to comfort myself.  We have to learn other way to cope besides eating.  If you  cannot resist the junk food do not bring it into your home.  I amnot perfect by any means, I eat junk.  But this is what i know, this is not the end for me.  I have a tool that will only work if I work it.  And i will mess up but I am going to work the hell out this tool, because it has given me a second chance.  Go back and look at old pics, think about where you might end up if you keep going down the wrong path.  You may also want to talk to a councelor about the emotional eating, the surgery changed you stomach not your habits.  Best of luck

Again, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Talk to your surgeon and get a referral for counseling. Don't go through this alone. Have you tried a grief support group? Please, try to get some help ASAP.

I'll continue to keep you in my prayers.

i'm sorry you're going through this...i don't have any anwsers, but i know you'll get through it. Try and get rid of all the junk food at home and replace it with healthy snacks. Try taking a walk a few times throughout the day..and reach out to friends during this time...don't isolate yourself!!
I'm praying for you...

Be Blessed,
Ms.Cleo