Good Morning, BAF!!! (Kinda long)
Hey now…it’s FRIDAY!!!! And what a weekend it is…especially here in the DMV area where you have parties, celebrities, and wait…our first African American President waiting in tow to be sworn in as the 44th President of the United States of America!!!!! Wow…that alone just has me all tingly inside, because I never thought I’d see the day an African American would become President, but through God…all things truly are possible!!!!! I am excited and ready for this positive change Barack has in store for us, as he is truly an awesome person, with such a calm spirit and a sense of connecting with the people…be it Black, White, Asian, Latino, etc. As I sit here thinking about all this CHANGE that’s taking place, I thought to myself - why not let this spill over into our everyday lives?
Personally, I know I have some things I need to change about myself, and while I’m a work in progress, I know it’ll happen because I have the power to ensure it does. BAF, my heart is heavy. I’ve been reading posts for a while, and although I don’t respond to a lot, I do read the board at least once a week; and, what I’m seeing really has me thinking “Wow - what’s really going on with BAF?" I am in awe of the cyber beefs, the belittling of folks, the constant drama, the constant non-weight loss support, and just a bunch of unnecessary mess that’s become the “in thing" on the board.
While I realize it’s not just BAF, the question is - Can we CHANGE the tone of this board? We have a lot of pre-ops, newbie’s, heck, even old heads who sit back shaking their heads at the happenings on the BAF board. Although nothing much shocks me, I swear these past few months have left me speechless. While I know we all have strong personalities, is it really necessary to get upset and attack folks on the board? If you have an issue with someone, address them privately. (Many times I’ve read where it was a BL conversation; yet, some felt it necessary to bring it to the board) and my question is - WHY? Why do such a thing, when you already know the type of “air" it’s going to create.
Hmm, could it be people just thrive on DRAMA? We have enough going on in real life than to sit behind a computer keeping unnecessary bullschitt brewing. I love my BAF family, but hey, let’s stop attacking each other. If you feel the need to express yourself to a certain person(s)…how about doing so on the BL? To those reading this, please be mindful, I’m not posting to get attention. I’m simply posting as someone who’s truly tired of scratching my head at a lot of stuff I see going on and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
We are a family and I know from experience that family folk fight, kiss, and make up at some point, but there tends to be a lot of unnecessary fighting, bickering, and just plain ole mess going on regularly, and I’m sure, like myself, you’ve got to say - when will it stop? We have people still upset about previous BAF functions they’ve attended and have truly said some hurtful things about people on and off the board.
Let’s CHANGE and move on to something more positive and stop dwelling on past indiscretions. I swear you’ll feel so much better - and it keeps the stress level down! As you know, we have an upcoming Meet & Greet in DC and there have been posts about who’s coming, who are you looking forward to meeting the most, and all types of “stuff." I’m looking forward to meeting EVERYONE; hopefully, those planning to attend will feel the same. I do realize we look forward to meeting a select few, but honestly, those types of posts tend to hurt people’s feelings and while I’m sure it wasn’t done with malicious intent; yet we know people have a way of reading into what’s behind the post and the person posting.
So I say, if you’re coming to the DC Meet & Greet, come with the mindset of having a nice time, after all, only you have control over that. Don’t let others influence you into thinking anything bad about meet & greets, because guess what? I’ve been to several and have always enjoyed myself and have met some life-long friends in the process, courtesy of BAF Meet & Greets. Let me get off my soap box. BAF - can we CHANGE the tone of the board and stop with all this negativity, hatred, drama, and unnecessary bullschit??!!!
Can we show more support for those on this journey be it pre-op or post op? In other words, can we respond to posts that are asking for WEIGHT LOSS help and support, and not just the drama-filled or sex related posts? Ok, I’m done now. And, with all that said, I wish you all a wonderful weekend and year. And remember, together WE CAN CHANGE and we know we can. Look who’ll be living in the White House in a few days - so yeah…CHANGE IS POSSIBLE!!!!!!! I’m taking a stand…how about you?
Just my honest opinion…Cassie
Personally, I know I have some things I need to change about myself, and while I’m a work in progress, I know it’ll happen because I have the power to ensure it does. BAF, my heart is heavy. I’ve been reading posts for a while, and although I don’t respond to a lot, I do read the board at least once a week; and, what I’m seeing really has me thinking “Wow - what’s really going on with BAF?" I am in awe of the cyber beefs, the belittling of folks, the constant drama, the constant non-weight loss support, and just a bunch of unnecessary mess that’s become the “in thing" on the board.
While I realize it’s not just BAF, the question is - Can we CHANGE the tone of this board? We have a lot of pre-ops, newbie’s, heck, even old heads who sit back shaking their heads at the happenings on the BAF board. Although nothing much shocks me, I swear these past few months have left me speechless. While I know we all have strong personalities, is it really necessary to get upset and attack folks on the board? If you have an issue with someone, address them privately. (Many times I’ve read where it was a BL conversation; yet, some felt it necessary to bring it to the board) and my question is - WHY? Why do such a thing, when you already know the type of “air" it’s going to create.
Hmm, could it be people just thrive on DRAMA? We have enough going on in real life than to sit behind a computer keeping unnecessary bullschitt brewing. I love my BAF family, but hey, let’s stop attacking each other. If you feel the need to express yourself to a certain person(s)…how about doing so on the BL? To those reading this, please be mindful, I’m not posting to get attention. I’m simply posting as someone who’s truly tired of scratching my head at a lot of stuff I see going on and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
We are a family and I know from experience that family folk fight, kiss, and make up at some point, but there tends to be a lot of unnecessary fighting, bickering, and just plain ole mess going on regularly, and I’m sure, like myself, you’ve got to say - when will it stop? We have people still upset about previous BAF functions they’ve attended and have truly said some hurtful things about people on and off the board.
Let’s CHANGE and move on to something more positive and stop dwelling on past indiscretions. I swear you’ll feel so much better - and it keeps the stress level down! As you know, we have an upcoming Meet & Greet in DC and there have been posts about who’s coming, who are you looking forward to meeting the most, and all types of “stuff." I’m looking forward to meeting EVERYONE; hopefully, those planning to attend will feel the same. I do realize we look forward to meeting a select few, but honestly, those types of posts tend to hurt people’s feelings and while I’m sure it wasn’t done with malicious intent; yet we know people have a way of reading into what’s behind the post and the person posting.
So I say, if you’re coming to the DC Meet & Greet, come with the mindset of having a nice time, after all, only you have control over that. Don’t let others influence you into thinking anything bad about meet & greets, because guess what? I’ve been to several and have always enjoyed myself and have met some life-long friends in the process, courtesy of BAF Meet & Greets. Let me get off my soap box. BAF - can we CHANGE the tone of the board and stop with all this negativity, hatred, drama, and unnecessary bullschit??!!!
Can we show more support for those on this journey be it pre-op or post op? In other words, can we respond to posts that are asking for WEIGHT LOSS help and support, and not just the drama-filled or sex related posts? Ok, I’m done now. And, with all that said, I wish you all a wonderful weekend and year. And remember, together WE CAN CHANGE and we know we can. Look who’ll be living in the White House in a few days - so yeah…CHANGE IS POSSIBLE!!!!!!! I’m taking a stand…how about you?
Just my honest opinion…Cassie
Sis, have I told you today how much I luv you, child!? Thanks for this post...hopefully, people will indeed take TIME to read it - yes, it's long (whew lawd)...but, I did read it and understood what you are saying - it is up to us!!!
Good morning, BAF!!!
And guess what, BAF (especially da 'newbies') - CASSIE AND I MET AT A MEET & GREET 4 YEARS AGO - AND HAVE BEEN THICK AS THIEVES EVER SINCE!!!
Here we are, after meeting for the first time!
Girl - just keep on doing the thang!!!
Good morning, BAF!!!
And guess what, BAF (especially da 'newbies') - CASSIE AND I MET AT A MEET & GREET 4 YEARS AGO - AND HAVE BEEN THICK AS THIEVES EVER SINCE!!!
Here we are, after meeting for the first time!
Girl - just keep on doing the thang!!!
I choose to love myself, live life to the fullest, and encourage others to liberate themselves!
gm, D² 
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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Cassie,
I've read your post (went thru two cups of coffee finishing it..j/k) and you are very right.
Yes, I was guilty of letting my temper get the best of me yesterday, even though, for the most part, lately when I've had issues with certain people, I HAVE taken it to the BL.
I don't know what the board was like in the past in that I have been here for less than a year, but, from what I see, I guess the main mission here has been lost.
I'll do what I can to help bring a more positive atmosphere here.
I've read your post (went thru two cups of coffee finishing it..j/k) and you are very right.
Yes, I was guilty of letting my temper get the best of me yesterday, even though, for the most part, lately when I've had issues with certain people, I HAVE taken it to the BL.
I don't know what the board was like in the past in that I have been here for less than a year, but, from what I see, I guess the main mission here has been lost.
I'll do what I can to help bring a more positive atmosphere here.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
Donna,
honestly, yesterday started out as a good one and ended as a good one. I'm just sorry that the middle turned into a firestorm because of some stupid bullshyt.
honestly, yesterday started out as a good one and ended as a good one. I'm just sorry that the middle turned into a firestorm because of some stupid bullshyt.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
Can we change the tone of the board? Without a doubt.
Will the tone of the board change? I really don't see it happening so I told myself to just worry about what I can control..
1. I take from this board (and any other) what I need and allow others to do the same.
I try to take the sting out of most of my replies, because Lord knows sometimes I just want to type "ARE YOU FREAKING FOR REAL OR DID YOU TYPE THIS TO SEE THE REACTIONS? but then I pull my coat tail and think "calm down, that is not your sister Connie that you are typing to"
Will the tone of the board change? I really don't see it happening so I told myself to just worry about what I can control..
1. I take from this board (and any other) what I need and allow others to do the same.
I try to take the sting out of most of my replies, because Lord knows sometimes I just want to type "ARE YOU FREAKING FOR REAL OR DID YOU TYPE THIS TO SEE THE REACTIONS? but then I pull my coat tail and think "calm down, that is not your sister Connie that you are typing to"
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