ALL OF IT........

Hello people , I have not been here in ages becuse I was ahamed, well the last time I was here I  had  finally gotten hitched!! but that didnt work out  and now I am  no longer, if you think its haed to be gay and married try bing gay and divorced!!! well needless to say I went into depression and a tail spin and went back to my old ways and habits and as of this  morning I have gained back every single pound that I lost since the surgery,  and my high blood pressure has returned and  my doc told me my a1c number is showing pre-diabetes, I   am so depressed right now and ahsamed I dotn know where to start over, so I figured i would come back here  where it all began has anyone else fallen off the wagon? how did you get back?

I was wondering where you were.  Sorry to hear it didn't work out.   You can get back on track...and don't go MIA again, we're gonna start charging a re-entry fee.

Kidnap if you must, but don't let it get away. Who did you have the surgery for? (don't answer me....I'm playing therapist here--pretend you on my couch)...Who did you lose weight for? Your husband, does he has high blood pressure? Borderline diabetes? Depression? Has his life stopped in the middle of the tracks and he found comfort in food? Does loving someone mean that when I am hurt I have to ABUSE me? Why did I allow my HEART to love this man more than I love myself?

KIDNAP IT! Take control....really, so FUCK IT! and this time, start over and do the schitt for you. Don't label it being gay and divorced.....**** hard for everybody. YOU ARE HUMAN first....and we all got issues. We all fall short....BUT.......

I see a light at the end of the tunnel.....grab on, we headed for that light!

GET FOCUSED....get rid of all junk and bad food.....get some water....some workout clothes and JUST DO IT! Why? Because you are tired!!!!!!

Hang in there! You are not ALONE!

Theres no need to feel ashamed...its time to get back to doing you for YOU.

Just because your relationship ended,  dosent mean your life has to.

Im sorry to hear that things didnt work out,  but its about learning to love you and knowing that you deserve to be healthy so that you can be happy with or without a partner.

Im saying the same things to myself as well.  So know that you are not alone in the struggle.

Start today...come back to this board as often as need be so that you can stay inspired & encouraged in your struggle.  Thats what I do.

Wishing you renewed peace & strength !

Hello Keith,

You just pick yourself up and dust off and start over again.  Most importantly, get the support be it from BAF or other means.  Support is critical for your continued success. 

  I can understand the depression part, but please don't be ashamed.   I had a period of regain a couple of years ago when I was going through a stressful period in my life.  It is possible to get back on track.

                         Set yourself up for success. 

- Go into your kitchen right now and toss out everything that you know you don't need to be eating or drinking.  Don't use the kids as an excuse.  They don't need junk food either.

- If you have food in other places in your home, get rid of it.

- Sit down and plan some meals and snacks that consist of lean protein and healthy carbs like vegetables, fruit and whole grains.  Make your shopping list and do not deviate from it. 

- Don't shop when you're hungry and don't take the kids with you.

- Avoid white food ~ potatoes, pasta, sugar, white bread, ice cream, crackers, etc.

- Eat your protein first and fill out the rest of your meal with healthy carbs.

- This is important, so listen to me:

  Once your pouch is full, stop eating.  

  DO . NOT . EAT . ANOTHER . SINGLE . BITE . OF . FOOD !

-  Make sure you are eating enough food so that your body will not go into starvation mode.

- Drink lots of no-cal fluids between your meals ~ water, Crystal Light, herb tea, decaf coffee, etc.  This will keep you hydrated and help stave off hunger.

- Take your supplements every day.

- Do not eat slider foods or drink within 30 minutes of your meals.  Your pouch will empty faster and you will become hungry.

- Consider eating on a schedule so you don't have the opportunity to get hungry.  For me 9A, 12N, 3P and 6P are most convenient.

- Pack a lunch for work so that you don't have to eat out.  I use an insulated bag for mine.

- Monitor your progress with the scale and the tape measure.  You might not be losing pounds every week, but you might be losing inches.

- Expect occasional plateaus and fluctuations and don't let them discourage you.  Look at TRENDS.

- Start exercising if you're not doing it already.  DISCLAIMER:  Everybody who has seen me post knows that I've been the world's worst couch potato but it does work.  I have a goal to start exercising this year.  Not so much for weight loss, but for general overall fitness and good health.  I want to live for a long time and I want a good quality of life while I'm here.

- Keep seeking support and information.   

Well I haven't fallen off of the wagon because I haven't even got on it yet. Still waiting on a surgery date. But  I just wanted to show you some support and let you know don't beat yourself up over the past. Its the future that counts. You can do it.

 SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP NOT WORKING AND THE WEIGHT GAIN BUT YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST OR THE LAST WHO HAS GONE THRU THIS  YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT YOU CAN MAKE IT YOU WILL GET YOUR WEIGHT BACK DOWN WHERE YOU WANT IT YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS WITH IN YOURSELF AND NEW LOVE WILL COME AGAIN I AM CLAIMING THIS FOR YOU NOW YOU CLAIM IT AND SO IT SHALL BE

Keith while I don't know u, I can understand how u might feel ashamed and sad.  These feeling that you are having are normal u just have to pick yourself up outta the funk.  I know it's hard when someone u love hurts u, it hurts like FIRE.  but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, Love will find you and this time it will be right becasue you have learned from your previous love.  As far as the weight I am no vet. in the game but I do know you can push your" reset button" and get back on track that's the beauty of the surgury.  I hope this helps somewhat and I pray you regain your mental and physical. Hugs-Miranda