Not A Baby Mama
My mom had me at 33 - so she was 51...... that age difference makes a LOT of difference...... And i got friends I watched do all the 'living' when they were 20 and 30 and now got kids.... I will call them mofos from every one of my hotel suites while I vacation and they azzes at home with the kids........ LOL!!!!
I don't just have issues, I have subscriptions! I'm saving on the newsstand price....... 
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I respect how you feel and its good that you shared this with your fiance... but what are you gonna do to take precautions to make sure that an unplanned pregnancy dosent happen. 
Especially now that you've have surgery because from what I understand birth control pills dont always work following WLS because of the malabsorption.
Condoms break.....the only method thats 100% is abstinence.
I think its easy to say what you dont want....but when you are truly faced with that situation, its a different story.
Im a single parent of an incredible 16 yr old daughter. Would I prefer that she be married before she has her children. Of course....but if that were not the case, I would help out financially and emotionally as much as I could to make sure that my grandchild be as well adjusted as she is.
Side note...just cause you start out with a husband dosent mean that hes gonna stay or do what he should to be an equal contributing factor in a child's life. Thats based on the moral character and compass of the man. And now a days with woman being as successful as we are....MEN know how to front just long enough to get you locked down so they can have a place to live, nice car to drive, good food in their belly, clean drawers on their stank behinds and some guaranteed good cooch in the bed. 
Dont get me started.......
Hi Pretty Plum. Hope all is well with you. I agree with your post completely. Hey beautiful........girl I tell you if having my daughter, meant I had to marry her dad. 
I'm glad I remained single....cause it left me and my delicate heart open for true 
I was the prize in that relationship. 
Im so glad I heard that powerful voice in my 8th year of weakness say
" Child wake up, he aint all that " 
Im so glad too, cause he would have stuck me for my papers and good credit.
Homeboy got too many kids out of wedlock and as his wife, I would have had to contribute my income for his child support. 
Whew that was close..........Peace out - 
I respect how you feel and its good that you shared this with your fiance... but what are you gonna do to take precautions to make sure that an unplanned pregnancy dosent happen.
Especially now that you've have surgery because from what I understand birth control pills dont always work following WLS because of the malabsorption.
Condoms break.....the only method thats 100% is abstinence.
I think its easy to say what you dont want....but when you are truly faced with that situation, its a different story.
Im a single parent of an incredible 16 yr old daughter. Would I prefer that she be married before she has her children. Of course....but if that were not the case, I would help out financially and emotionally as much as I could to make sure that my grandchild be as well adjusted as she is.
Side note...just cause you start out with a husband dosent mean that hes gonna stay or do what he should to be an equal contributing factor in a child's life. Thats based on the moral character and compass of the man. And now a days with woman being as successful as we are....MEN know how to front just long enough to get you locked down so they can have a place to live, nice car to drive, good food in their belly, clean drawers on their stank behinds and some guaranteed good cooch in the bed.
Dont get me started.......
Of course I thought we would be married forever, I chose to wait until after 30 to marry and have kids. I lived my life with NO regrets. No one ask you to marry them and says oh by the way when the kids get here I am not gonna help you do shiot. I am not gonna be a good dad. I am going to be a neglectful husband, etc, etc. People say you should see the signs - BUT I didn't! My husband was a kind generous man and we had a good relationship. When the kids came he felt I didn't love him as much! We had a lot of other issues that had nothing to do with the boys. Long story short the marriage didn't survive but I dont regret the marriage and I don't regret my boys.
Working on me - want to be better in everyway not just physically!!! Its a process no time to judge or be judged!!!!
I respect how you feel and its good that you shared this with your fiance... but what are you gonna do to take precautions to make sure that an unplanned pregnancy dosent happen.
Especially now that you've have surgery because from what I understand birth control pills dont always work following WLS because of the malabsorption.
Condoms break.....the only method thats 100% is abstinence.
I think its easy to say what you dont want....but when you are truly faced with that situation, its a different story.
Im a single parent of an incredible 16 yr old daughter. Would I prefer that she be married before she has her children. Of course....but if that were not the case, I would help out financially and emotionally as much as I could to make sure that my grandchild be as well adjusted as she is.
Side note...just cause you start out with a husband dosent mean that hes gonna stay or do what he should to be an equal contributing factor in a child's life. Thats based on the moral character and compass of the man. And now a days with woman being as successful as we are....MEN know how to front just long enough to get you locked down so they can have a place to live, nice car to drive, good food in their belly, clean drawers on their stank behinds and some guaranteed good cooch in the bed.
Dont get me started.......
@ Don't get me started....... People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown
Now-- if I had access to the ninja smiley, I'd place it right.....
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Tsunami---Hello. Michael here.
I feel compelled to respond--but only because you're talking sense & I feel guilty for some silly reason!
I have yet to marry the mother of my children. And I've heard your argument before--and I remember the first time--it was actually here on the board--I couldn't argue the sense it made then and I STILL cannot.
Thankfully, however--I have never looked at my partner as a mere "babies mama" Even when we had decided to go our separate ways.
I know that something such as marriage FOR ME is monumental. I can readily admit my fears, no matter how...unsubstantiated...they may be. Ive always been the kind of person that doesn't move until I'm good and ready--and that won't change. However....being married is something that my partner wants and until that time comes, I have been and will continue to be THERE--in every way, shape, form or fashion possible.
If she ever presented your argument, I'd be hard pressed to come up with an answer--a legitiMate one, that is--because I DO understand the thought from your vantage point.
But I don't look at my partner as being anything....substandard or what have you....because I haven't married her. NEVER THAT.
(I know you never said that was the case--it's my guilt kicking up--you've merely given me a reason to think about where I stand!!! Thank you!!!!)
1.) The BACKLINES have backlines. Watch what you say and more importantly WHO YOU SAY IT TO!! 2.) There are NO secrets on BAF. DON'T BE FOOLED!!
3.) The person who says: "I'm going to tell you something, but you can't tell anyone." has already TOLD 50 other people!
No--this isn't from experience--well, not MINE anyway!
If you are handling your business more power to you. I like to see men handling their business.
HIGH FIVE TO SINGLE MOTHER'S NO MATTER HOW YOU GOT SINGLE BY CHOICE ARE BY DIVORCE.
Proverb 16:9
May not be where I want to be but I glad to be where I'm at.
Working at getting the rest of the way.
12/10/2012 I'll be having LBL, BL/BA, thigh & arm lift, eyelid
Body by Dr. Sauceda booked to 12/9--12/22
