How Much Should a Work Mate know about you and your spouse

LOL!!!  I hear you!  That ****** still needs to be put in her place.  If she's just trying to be friendly, she's still being rude.  There's nothing wrong with Becca saying to her, in a friendly and non-threatening way that she (Becca) notices how much she (co-worker) enjoys your stories, and she (Becca) would appreciate it if the co-worker would give you a chance to tell them.

Or maybe, the life the two of you have is the only life this woman has!  Is her only conversation about you and Becca?  Doesn't she have her own life or her own stories???

Most of the time it not what a person say or do but YOUR reaction to it

Now I am thinking you have two options

1.  just ignore her but seems that that is not working so..

2.  Embarrass her.....next time you are in a group and you are telling a story...not long after you start the story...make a pronounce pause in the telling of the story...look at her and say something to the effect "I really would like to finish this story myself this time" and then continue. Trust me..do this enough and she will stop if nothing else because she wont know what the heck you will do next.

You have no control over what Becca tells about you all and like you said, it really nothing personal personal, it just that person stupid way of trying to impress someone about how much she knows

I like this suggestion very much LaVerne and I will definately try it.

I think it is plain creepy and an invasion of privacy.  Some people want to know all your business so they can pretend to "know" you.  I would tell spouse/lover/whatever to STOP telling personal business.  I would be totally offended by such actions and having it practically rubbed in your face. 

One way to handle it is to walk away when they start.  They may know it irks you and be trying to cause some friction.  Just say, excuse me." and walk away to the bar/bathroom/window/whatever.  Some people break up over that crap.  Learn to keep your mouth shut.

I don'tknwoif being single I really haveany good advice to give on this one.  But I consider myself a private person and wouldbe tickedat the co-worker as well as my mate.  I feel like I shouldbe the one to decide how much to share with people.

Are you sure the co-worker doesn't have a little bit of a crush on Becca?  She's showing a lack of class as well as some weird type of jealousy.

Hey Michelle,

No it is not a crush deal.  A few years ago she was part of our hang out crew and we dropped her ass cause she was just to dam young and stupid.  She use to do this to another couple we knew when they first started dating, she thought it was cute or something to mention when the girl was born and her grandma birthday , just stuff about her to make her new girlfriend think she knows everything. 

Oh well, you can get older but I guess you can't fix the stupid.

I suspect this young lady does not have a life, friends or class. 

My SO and I talked about this this morning he said he would be so pissed at my co-worker that he would probably have to be rude to her or before she gets started tell her he doesn't need any help with finishing his story.  I understand that the stuff she is talking about is not "private business" stuff it's just that she feels the need to let you know that she know 'SOMETHING' ABOUT YOU and your spouse. 

My SO told me I was misleading in my answer to you because I am known as "Ms. Private Fort Knox" when it comes to discussing my personal life at work.  I get joked about it all of the time.  We were in a relationship almost 4 years before anyone except 2 very close friends at work ever met him.  I don't feel the need to let co-workers in my inner circle.  My co-workers unlike me are rather open about their home life.

What she needs to understand is the closeness of her workgroup does not extend to the spouses.  I can tell this really bothers you so at a time when you are NOT annoyed with her you need to let her know the behaviors that annoy you since it appears that you have to interact with her somethime.  Peace & Blessings

Pokerchips,  I hear you and there is no way in hell I could tell this chick anything without cussing her ass out so that is not a good idea.   I don't like the girl at all so it's best I only deal with her when I have to. 

Rule #1 = the work spouse should never know that much about the real spouse!
That sounds really tacky and out of line I would have to address that behavior at the house with my spouse.