I have a work dillemma

ATL Diva 2009
on 1/8/09 8:54 am, edited 1/8/09 8:56 am - Lawrenceville, GA
Ok, I don't know how much response I'm going to get but needed to ask a question.  In 2007 my job was split into two positions my position I have now and a manager position above me. I wasn't considered for the manager position because I had gotten a promotion (20% salary increase) I also was happy that I would have someone working with me that I could learn and have a professional mentor. Well, he hires this blond from Woodstock that knew nothing about health or life insurance but she was department head apparently in some other areas of insurance. This woman was somewhere between clueless and WTF. I was offended  and basically our boss said that I had one half (knowledge) she had the other (organization/administrative) and together we would be a great time. Whereas in actuallity togethre we make a whole manager. She and I bumped heads from day on and to this day I can't stand her because of some of the shiot she's pulled trying to deflect her incompetencies.

Anywho last month I go to my boss and tell him that I"m thinking of pursuing another position within the company. He tells me that he doesn't want me to go, that he didn't see me ready a year ago but now he sees me in management and can see me be the manager of our section specifically... in the future (when blondie leaves). Well, after our talk he then calls us both in his office and says from now on I'm going to you individually for whatever is your assigned task are (no more going to blondie for all things health) He in essence placed us both on the same level. She still has some responsbility such as initialling off on my absentee/vacation forms before he signs it  and minro things like that but on paper and in HR she's still my direct supervisor. And she make sure I know this as she micromanages everything that she can and drive my crazy.

How do I handle this? He has in essence said  for 99% of things we're equal but the 1% she has authority over she acts as abully. If I don't do it or get Ro on her azz then I'm the "angry immature black chick" but if I sit and take it I feel like I'm not being true to myself and stressing out unneccessarily. However, I know if I can hold the line she will be gone within the next 6-12 months but not sure if I can hang without whupping her azz.

Thanks!
edited to try to correct some of that jacked up spelling

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hershey dream
on 1/8/09 9:02 am - Duluth, GA
What would indicate that she'd be leaving her current position in the next 6-12 months?
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ATL Diva 2009
on 1/8/09 9:10 am - Lawrenceville, GA
We all know that she's around until she either a)find something better b) goa mental leave, that's what happened with her last job or c)finally get fired.

So I say 6-12 months....My boss knows I want stay around longer than that if something else comes along. He dosen't realize the power trip that's she's on with this whole "supervisor" title. So, he thinks I'll give Ro more responbility and she'll be happy but dosen't realize that the more he gives me on one end the harder she squeezes on the other. I dunno I'm so con-fus-ed

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cge268
on 1/8/09 9:27 am
hey, this is the first time i actually post on this forum, but i wrote something similiar yesterday about my job.why does these empty headed chicks go on these power trips.  scared we may one day be equal. . i personally get along with everyone, but my peri menopausal arsh isnt kissing any arsh. dont want to be fired, but she better not make me pull this damn weave back and expose my kitchens are its going to be on like a chicken bone, by then i dont care. smile. just kidding. thats what she expect.i enounciate correctly that her behaviors are beneath my character and maybe a psycological evaluation maybe appropriate at this time because there are some unresolved deep seated issues that need to be explored.smile. keep your head up sister. make your dollars. charlene 
ATL Diva 2009
on 1/8/09 10:02 am - Lawrenceville, GA
Thanks Charlene! I have t o learn that she IS beneath me and I am more professional than she. However, it is my pride I know that will not allow me to do what it is I need to do which is to treat her like she wants to be treated but she's an idiot lol

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ShayZ
on 1/8/09 10:10 am - Somewhere, TX
I'm sorry but maybe I misunderstood; did you allow this man to talk you out of other opportunities (that may be good for your career and mental health) and into a position (albeit that you seem to like) with more responsibility (working with a brainless hippy) but no increase in pay or not the kind that might go with a new position?  I am pretty sure that is not what I read....please clarify darling.
ATL Diva 2009
on 1/8/09 10:32 am - Lawrenceville, GA
Wow Shay is that what I did? Actually I LOVE my position that I'm currently in and its not increase responsbility  I'm doing the same amount of work its just she's not supervising me do it. My problem is that now that he's taken that away from her in his face she acts like its fine however, for the minial stuff she is suppose to do (just because he felt bad taking it all away) she nit picks and tries to get under my skin about it and I don't know how to deal with it.

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ShayZ
on 1/8/09 10:54 am - Somewhere, TX
Okay fair enough...what about the positions you were interested in?  How do you feel about the work, the pay, the people who surround the position, the management.  I'll tel you like my mother told me and I have yet to listen about personal issues, however you don't have to be as hardheaded as I, "It is just as easy to love a poor man as a rich one."  Now what I will tell you is that I have always applied it to my professional life.  Loving ones job comes from within, when you are confident in what you do and assured of yourself your happiness with yourself radiates and reflects back to you usually in the people you work with.  The people with less confidence, less self-assuredeness and less happiness are those who make it bad for everyone.

I say that to say this...if you are willing (or if when you pray God says for you )to be still with respect to this position then by all means do so, however if you are given the opportunity and impetus by God to move, then girl go because someone as bright and talented as you can be a star anywhere!
ATL Diva 2009
on 1/9/09 12:25 am - Lawrenceville, GA
Thanks Shay! I appreciate the feedback!

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ShayZ
on 1/9/09 1:20 am - Somewhere, TX
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