Life, People, Family and my Decision

Happy New Year BAF,

I hardly ever post but need to let off a little steam.I have been having family and friends say lately you are not big enough for surgery and my size fit my height.I look nice, but little do they know its hard trying to find "PLUS SIZE" clothes and struggling with other "BIG GIRL" issues.Yes I am tall and look nice when I dress but is there any chane of me being a size 10-12 and tall with it.This has had me feeling real down, peolpe saying you gone look sick, you gone look funny, you gone have a big top small bottom....I want to say F%$@ Off but its 2009 and It's about me and making myself happy.I am so stressed and depressed lately its crazy.

Muffin,
I hear u on this.  The thing about this step we've all taken is that most of the people who have opinions on this never would need to do it in the first place...thus they've never done the research or anything regarding it. 

I say to you just ignore the bullshyt.  Unless they are walking in your shoes, have the "plus size" issues, any health issues, social issues, whatever, they can kiss your whole entire posterior.

Do NOT let them get to you. You are doing this to do good by yourself FOR whatever reason.  And it pertains only to YOUR reasons..nobody elses.

I know its your family and friends, Muffin, but, "Fugg'em".  Do your thing, sweetie.

Thank you so much for that.I know I need to do this for me so, I will keep my head up and think positive about my decision.

Ok...so why don't you say

"F%$@ Off its 2009 and It's about me and making myself happy"



unless you're 'fraida gettin your ass kicked, I say that statement will solve your problem.

I try not to get out of line but I might just try it......It's my life so F*&% Off !!!!!!...Oh and by the way "KICK MY ASS" you really funny I needed that laugh.

It's never out of line to expel negative energy from your life. 

As a general rule, I say if you can't help me shut the f*ck up.


But I kinda got an attitude problem.

Thanks I will keep all of this in mind.You are so right

Hey Ma........you are going to have people sabatoging your choice prior to and post wls......just shake em off Ma.......After all you gotta look out for number one and number one is you. You have decided to do something to improve your health and well being.......so if they dont wanna be on the highway to to good health tell them to get in the slow lane before you run them the flucck over........ok getting off my soap box now

You are so right I am them over and  all the way to the end.Thanks so much

I had a lot of the same comments on my journey. I would say that you want to stay the course and "do you". It is time to focus on you and what you want out of life. There is always going to be someone that cannot understand the decisions you make and honestly, you have to ultimately be comfortable with you. If you are not happy no one is going to be happy around you.

Take care of yourself!

Chagrin