Unsupportive BFFs?

Thanks Isa... you're the bestest! 

girl look I know you are hurt but I believe alot of people dont know how to handle the issue of wls or there could be a little jealousy but no matter what if this is your friend be better then her let her know how you felt and move on this is a new year and will be your year dont let anyone stunt your growth with anger take care and be blessed

Thanks HQ... I voiced my feelings to her.  Well see how it goes from here!

You look gorgeous, BTW!  Keep up the good work!

If she really has been a good friend to you in the past, give her the benefit of the doubt.  Everybody messes up sometimes.  People that we care about can and do disappoint us, but we have a choice to forgive. 

Talk to her and tell her how you feel and let her tell you how she feels too.  She might have some fears and/or misinformation that caused her to behave this way.  She might also be struggling with her own insecurities about her weight and how your relationship with her will change. 

I hope everything works out.

I agree 100%... thanks SB! 

If this is your girl you should be able to talk to her about anything.  I say give her a call and talk it out...don't prolong the issue and let it fester.

Thanks Ms. Au Lait!

Correspondence has been electronic (she's at work), but I did reply by email.  This will be worked out one way or another... I'm hoping for the better.

Dang, I've got the same story here. My BFF has been acting all weird even when I was pre-op and preparing to start this journey. We've both always been BBW's so shopping was great! She is emmersing herself in her own weight loss program and has lost 40lbs and wants to give me all of her "fat clothes" because she is a size smaller than I am. I told her I don't want them, because the first round of stuff she gave me was already too big for me to begin with. She seems to casually forget that I also lost 40lbs at the same time as her with my pre-op diet and insurance requirements for loss, but did I get an acknowledgement from her? Hate to be petty but dang... I thought we could celebrate each others losses, but its all about her. When I eventually surpass her with my weight loss, I don't know how she's gonna react, but that'll be on her... and I'm not going to worry my mind about how she'll handle it.

Sounds similar to us... we've always been BBSexyW together and prided ourselves in our Sexy Big Girl status.  Unlike you and your BFF, mine isn't local.  She once was, but she moved to DC last year for her job.  The really messed up thing though, was that she was in Philly (where my surgery took place) when I was in the hospital and was supposed to come visit the day I went home, but suddenly decided to return to DC that evening.  I was so confused and somewhat hurt.  I told her so via email.  Stay tuned.