Unsupportive BFFs?

Just curious...

Do you have a BFF or otherwise close friend who is not supportive of your WLS journey?  My BFF and I were once very anti-WLS together.   But, as my options started running out, I had to take a closer look at it.  Admittedly, my previous stance against it was rooted in ignorance, but I didn't come to this decision easily.  She realizes that and has tried to be supportive, but I think she's having more issues with this that she thought she would.  I'm one week out and I haven't heard from her at all since I was in the hospital: no calls, no emails, no texts, nada.  She knew I came home on 12/31, but that's all she wrote!

I'm trying not to take it personal, but it's hard.  After all, that MY GIRL!

Oh, and just 'cause I was discussing this very topic with my partner this morning, I got a lone text outta the blue from Said BFF that read:  "How did week one go?"

I haven't responded yet 'cause I'm pissed about it all.  I'll come around soon, I'm sure, but it just makes me a bit sad.

Thoughts?

I hate to be the person to bring you the bad news, but you are going to lose some friends along with your weight.  But the good news is, you will gain more friends from losing weight.  Try not to get so sad over it.  Its all about seasons. 

Oh, I absolutely agree about seasons!  Things will work out however they're supposed to.  Thx.

It is sad...but life goes on.  Hopefully she will get with the program and start supporting you.  Just answer the text like nothing is wrong.  She may have just needed a little time to take it all in.  Some people don't know what to say....

Just wait till you start loosing the weight and it shows...folks will really stop talking to you then.

I did respond to her text, but only to tell her that I'd emai her.  I did email her - updated her on everything - and told her how I felt.  I also asked if she was having more difficulty with this than I'm aware of.  I eagerly await her response.

Don't write her off yet...  Maybe she needed to work some stuff out for herself.  Maybe she's thinking about getting it?  Whatever, give her another chance.  Write her back and see what she says.  But if she keeps actin crazy you'll know the real deal.  And life is too short to deal with fools.

So how was week one?

I did.  I emailed her - updated her on everything - and told her how I felt.  I also asked if she was having more difficulty with this than I'm aware of.

As for week 1, I'm pretty certain it was typical for open RNY.  check my blog for details. 

damn........thats all I can say! Either she jealous and don't know how to handle the possibility that her girl is about to change and she may lose her friend.

OR

She a hater!!

I'd rather take the first one maybe you should let her know its still all love and your not going no where! Frienships are just like romantic relationships they take work too. Your girl was foul for not being there for you but maybe she has some issues she has to work through. Call her and see whats good.

Thanks MrB.  Will do! 

I have lost MANY friends along my journey in life for different reasons which all included me making positive changes in my life...Now at this point I am lucky to be surrounded by friends who mean the world to me...My BFF who has always been small was who suggested I look into WLS and she has been VERY supportive ever since...I could not imagine how I would have felt if she acted negatively towards me and the surgery I had...I have many friends and family and do not mind making more...You are not far from me...I am right over the bridge and if you ever need someone to talk to I am here.