Deeply Hurt...........

I just saw your pictures and must say that if he is not attracted to you then he must have issues...you are very pretty.

Let him go.  Nothing you do will ever be good enough and he will use any imperfection as an out clause in the relationship at some point. 
He's one of those men that expect a woman to be perfect when he marries her and expects her to look exactly the same 30 years and 5 kids later even though he has turned into a troll. 
There is a guy out there who will think you are perfect as you are.  I would keep looking for him. 

It's kinda of funny how men are about physical appearance.  There was a guy I dated who didn't like me wearing glasses... he only wanted me to wear contacts.  The one date I had with a guy who said he would see me again *if* I lost the spare tire I had around my waist when I was a size 10.  He was morbidly obese but liked women who were a size 4 or 6.  
Relationships with too much emphasis on the physical do not last.  There has to be an initial attraction but that's all it should be... an initial attraction and everything else should sustain the relationship. 

I have to agree with most of the people on here.  You need to drop him and drop him fast...if he likes YOU he will like YOU for WHO you are!  I don't think I have heard the song that Inspire put up, but it looks as though the lyrics are the truth in this case. 

I have looked at a few of your pics....and i must say that you are beautiful and what he doesn't want, there are many other men that will want you for who you are...Panni and all!!!!  Softness and all!!!  Beauty and all!  girl get rid of him and move on.  It ain't nothin for him to think about, except the line he is going to use on the next female when you are gone!

Good luck!

I met a wonderful guy, who has every attribute that I like in a man. He's handsome, articulate, professional, communicative and we have a lot in common. We can talk for hours on end about things that matter or anything at all..........

I would start by accessing my attributes. I am older now and wiser, so that could be the major difference, but I see all the things MOST women like and all the GREAT attributes one should seek are overlooked--because I see nothing in your posting where this gentlement COMPLIMENTS you, Sweety!  I don't know how long you all have been dating, but I see no hint of the UNCONDITIONAL in your posting.

However, I do have to give him props for being honest, and I do, too, have to admit, like most people, we all have our preferences; therefore, I cannot call him a jerk nor a coward. I RESPECT his honesty. Truth hurts, but truth is important in communicating.

If he decides, okay, I want to be with you.  Will you have doubts?  Can you hang in there?

My advice to you....follow your OWN heart, but don't be afraid to converse....asking SERIOUS questions, because I could not be in a relationship with someone who is uneasy about my physical. The next chick that comes along with all the attributes he wants...plus a tight body....where does that leave you?

Look for someone who not only you adore, but someone who adores you....compliments you and accepts you UNCONDITIONALLY!

 

(((Dedee)))

Hey there lady!!!  If you been on the board at all - you know *I* am not about to be all sugary and sweet like all these other replies - although I do agree......

Imma break it down to you like my main man, Katt Wiliams......

Unfortunately, the world is filled with ***** *****S..... these mofos perpetrate like they are REAL *****s, but, in reality - they are ***** *****S....... these are mofos who:
 - can't deal with imperfections on a woman's body - (fuck that!  You was big and got small - ain't no way that happens seemlessly!)
- can't deal with a woman making more than them, or doing more than them
- can't deal with a woman who knows what she DESERVES

aww - hell... ***** *****s can't deal with REAL women!!!!!

Trade that ***** in for a REAL damn man!!!!  I wish a mofo WOULD have a problem with my extras..... shiiittttt - if a mofo THAT concerned and bothered - next he will be soft dicked behind your nail and toe polish not matching.......

DROP HIM!!!!! 

..............girl dontcha ever change...I look forward to the spin you are going to put on things! and I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU

When someone cares for you then there aren't any conditions.My only question would be what's next?  Now, its the extra skin. What will be the next issue? and if there is something about him that you don't like do you think he would be willing to change for you? If you had an accident that left you wheelchair bound, would he be there for you? Hell would he be there to help you during the recovery process? 

You mention "I really like this man and can see myself with him permanantly"
Well, forever is a long time to have the right ring on the wrong finger.

He shouldn't have to think about what he wants to do. WTH?/!!?!?!?!!? You can make the decision for him. screw this being his deal breaker, make it YOUR deal breaker. This is the only life you get, its not a dress rehearsal and you don't get a chance to do it over if you mess this one up, its only the 3rd day in the new year and that is too much drama to carry into month 2, 3, 4 and so on. He can STEP!! why? because you love you more Why? because you laid on the surgeon's table to lose weight and become a slimmer renewed you! why? insert your own reason here_______________________________________________________________________


I go back and forth with the plastics question all the time. Yet, ultimately the plastics would be for me. Not because someone else is uncomfortable. Please believe that there is a man for you that will love all of you. Yes, respect and thank him for his honesty. Folks like that should get the perfection that they seek from someone else.


Miracles & Blessings,
Lena

The dealbreaker for you honey should be that mess coming out of his mouth.  If you have to second guess how he feels about you or question it; he's not for you.  You want someone that loves you; ALL OF YOU!!  The outside, and inside...beauty is only skin deep!  If he has to think about it; then you don't want him.  As some of the others have said; once you get the plastics and fix that problem he will find something else to find wrong!