My usual as the end for 2008

Aww thanks DD

Happy New Year

Michelle if this guy prayed before each course and still ate like a dog my question is TO WHO WAS HE PRAYING?  lol 
Poor table manners is one of my pet peeves.  I could not have stayed at the table without a productive burp (real mannerly huh).
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Sorry for the disappointing date. I don't know you, so I'll say that from my perspective setting up a first date on New Years Eve would spell potential disaster for me. Too many expectations and pressure associated with such an occasion.
While for some, it would be a time to party. In my mind I'd be looking at this as the start of a serious relationship (cause I can be crazy like that, too many romantic movies).
You've gotten some great advice that I'll be considering as well. I'm taking the pressure off myself and my suitors and having some fun this year. I look forward to seeing what happens when I begin to live in the moment.

If I may make a suggestion.  Never look at a first date as been a disaster no matter how bad it turn out to be.

A first date serves several purposes, the main purpose is to allow you to come to the conclusion if you want to see that person again, if you want there to be a second date.

Purposes:

1.  Did that person portray themselves in person as they did on the phone or on the Internet...if not.....no need for a second date.

2.  Does that person have mannerism that you can't/will not deal with?  if so...no need for a second date.

3.  Did that person omit to tell you something that should have been told during the lenghty conversation that you two had...if so no need for a second date.

Without a first date, there will never be a second date so like I said, the first date no matter how it turns out...it serves a very important purpose.

Now when you start to have a bunch of horrible 3rd and 4th dates, then just maybe you need to think, damn I am better off alone, but a first date is just that.

Take care of you and the rest will fall in to place.

much love

Michelle  don't let this date be a reflection of 2009 " your soul mate is out there"  my slogan is ITS EASY TO FIND A DATE but a MATE is hard   thanks Kanye  not everyone you meet is suppose to be the ONE  he was brought into your life for  a reason even if its just for friendship or to let you know WHAT YOU DON'T want in a mate...... just enjoy the dinner,convo,the walk in the park and be up front  if your not feelin him......maybe its not what they want to hear but at least they  know were they stand with ya ..... don't give up with online dating its a beautiful thang  you meet good/bad  people that you might never come in contact with. 

Heeeyyyy Michelle.......

You know I don't do warm and fuzzy, right?  Wait for it........

LET THAT SHIOT GO!!!!! lol

We have 'talked' time and time before about how you are not REALLY in a place to begin ****** with another mofo - so stop trying.  You are still angry about your past experiences - and **** like this doesn't help at ALL!!! 

One of the things I learned is that opposites DON'T attract.  You bring on what you give out.  Not saying you giving off limp ass, finger eating, praying over every meal kinda vibes - but you are not at your BEST.  Your best in loving you for YOU and being totally comfortable in the SKIN you're IN without the need for anyone!  I know - it's the shiot married or coupled mofos tell single mofos..... HOWEVER....... it is true that when you stop looking and focusing so hard on it - IT comes forward.  

Frustrating?  YES  Dissappointing?  ABSOLUTELY 

Hate to sound like a broken record - but start just doing things for YOU.  Step back totally from dating for a WHILE - I took a 2 year hiatus years back - had to get to figure out ME - not that you haven't figured out you - but just live life for a while, don't worry about having a mofo to live it with you - join a cooking class or poetry reading or some **** you wouldn't normally do - use the time you wasting dating finger eating limp man to expand your horizons.  Hell - I am considering taking up fencing in 09...... no - not theft.... the SPORT!  LMAOOOOO

anyway - sorry for your troubles - hope things get better!!!

Thank you Ms Anti Warm and Fuzzy

  I try to stay consistent..... the minute I get all soft, mofos will start thinkin I lost my 'touch'...... LOL!!!

Oh - and don't down bruh too hard on hiding that limp thing.... I used to NEVER mention the thing about my face to mofos when I was dating............. sometimes you just want a try to get a chance before someone 'writes' you off.........

Thanks for the consistency-I'm not good with change.

But I guess I give people too much credit.  Had I known about the limp it wouldn't have meant I wouldn't go out with him, that's kinda like me being fat.  I could lie by omission and not bring up the fact that Lane Bryant is my friend, but to me that would be wrong.  Hell I dated a guy once for almost 2 yrs that had like half a thumb.. to this day I don't know if he was born that way or if there was some trauma. He didn't try to hide it, and while I noticed it, it really wasn't a big deal to me.

And how you gonna act like I'm all damaged or something these days...I don't trust mofo's as a general rule-what's wrong with that?

LOL!  I never said you were damaged, babygirl!  You just been having a string of bad experiences lately is all.  No need to change your trust-o-meter, going with your gut instinct is what will help you avoid REAL trouble! 

I was just tryna explain that homie mighta not mentioned it cause he ain't wanna be counted out - HIS hangup - nothing to do with you - but he may not really have been shady in not mentioning it - that's all I was getting at.