My usual as the end for 2008

Girl you haven't figured out the thug-freeze yet?  I have had that look down for....dang near most of my life, lol.  Don't worry the look comes along in time I think....when inudated with gold teeth, saggin pants and "Come here, lil mama."

Girl I guess I haven't.  I would just stare at them when they stepped to me but that doesn't seem to work cause they cont with "What's up Baby, Hey lil mama...say shortie what's up."   I then look at myself to see what do I have own to make them think I would respond to that nonsense.  I guess i need to look and frown or something because they just don't get it girl.

I talked this over with my sister and she said that my look (sans reaction) is more of a bafflement then an actual freeze.  She said that they freeze simply because they do not know what to do with it.  This is what she describes:

Step 1.  The Say there, lil mama.
Step 2.  I turn and look them directly in their eye with no smile and evil leaping from my soul
Step 3.  They usually stop walking in my direction
Step 4.  I give them a glorious smile, full of teeth (she says like at a puppy who has done well)
Steo 5.  I keep doing whatever I was doing and never look or address them again.

I have rarely had anyone pursue after this exchange and have had only once had to look a man (figuratively speaking) up and down and say, "What's up, lil man?"

Be careful with that last one...you know they are crazy right?

Hey Shay-I don' t think I go out with the expectation of meeting my soul mate on a first date.  I certainly don't think I'm gonna meet "The One" on an internet date (even though I know people who have).  I'm a pretty simple person, I don't have expectations until a person gives me a reason to . 

Now the wine was a plan before the date- I intended to have a glass for the new year, I just got started a little earlier than planned.

Hey girl, I believe you the only problem is you can't expect things from people you don't know and until you meet and spend a pretty significant time with them; you can't know them.  Heck I no longer expect commone curtesy from people on the street...you know that old habit of holding a door for the person coming in behind you?  Yeah I know I am crazy cause I still do it but you know that door gets slammed in my face aplenty.

Just so we are on even ground, I will put myself out there...I am what my friends call a serial monogomous.  I will date a mofo for years....waiting for the shoe to drop and once it does I am out of there.  Are there psychological issues at play? Yep!  Am I aware of them? Yep Am I trying to fix them? Well sorta, it depends on my mood at any given time.  We all got some pain or issue from our past that made of the hefty heiffers we either were before or the ones we will NOT be in the future.  That stuff is no so easily fixed but it is fixable.

I am not telling you to drop your standards; I am saying drop your expectations.  Let a grease handed, praying over beadsticks mofo be.  You got full off food and wine, be thanksful for the free meal; now you can put that money towards shoes.

OMG those are some mofoin BAD ASS shoes!!!!!!  

I am a damn shoe ADDICT - this is NOT good for my therapy........ is there a website that has these available for purchase??????

Now, if I tell you where to get them...am I being complicit in your disease?  Does that make me an enabler?

Now - see I WAS trying to be nice.......

NOW GIVE UP THE WEBSITE ADDRESS DAMMIT!!!! 

Am I being too forward if I say that I think you may want to add anger management to your 2009 resolutions?  What do you think Michelle...maybe you should just take MM as your wingman.  She will eviserate the bad ones.

Hey Michelle..and I still say - DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!!! I have met some nice people online; some brothers who have turned out to be idiots, and yet some who are great guy friends.  It doesn't matter whether you meet them online, at church, at a wedding or funeral - they will (eventually) show their 'true' colors.

Not every person onlne is on the real with theirs; however, I would just encourage you to no build up high hopes - just because of a phone conversation - because as discussed before, some folk send their representatives on the dates and some have them make the calls for them.

Good luck to you, sweetie - and you'll have that 'true' first date before you know it!

DD