Internet Dating
Anyways, I am disappointed with internet dating. I have met more men who seem to think that women are desperate or maybe they are desperate for sex. If they think I am desperate, it shows by their behavior, down right below standards.
Or maybe, I need to play catchup with the rules of dating.
I went out with one, he paid for dinner; I did not like him from the the start. He chose to talk about which woman in the restaurant he could go home with. He did not bother to tell me one of hips were eroded and he would be getting a hip replacement; me, I decided to repay him with a Thanksgiving Dinner. Here again, if my son and his friend left, he decided to startup about sex again. I ushered him out of my home and stoppped returning his calls.
Some friends has since then told me that you never invite a man to your home. It means that you are willing to have sex or be intimate. Not. I think not and if that is what they think, I am SO far behind in the dating game, I am beginnig to be concerned about getting left behind.
I have spent time building my esteem and not taking the crap that I took when I was 30, 40's, even. Now that I think I am all of that, men want you to drop your pants on the first date. I can't. I willl not.
I was on a date last night and I thought it went quite well. He even asked first, whether we would see each other again. I went with him to CNN. He took me to house, bought wine and we watched : Meet Dave, then he wanted to kiss. I dd not feel comfortable kissing him. He touched me on my thighs and I told him did I feel comfortable. He stopped. I opted to go home after the movie.
He called me "sweety "as he walked me to the door. I did not like it and I told him, "no don;t call me that, it's patronizing," and I somehow felt that he did not like that. HE DID not like it, first b/c he had paid for an expensive dinner and next, b/c I did not kiss him nor did I let him touch me, I did not have sex with him.
I could not do that, the woman I am, today. I want a relationship and I don't want to sleep with a stranger on the first night of meeting him. I am not second guessing me, but if this is what women are doing or this is what men think of women internet dating or if this is how much we have been reduced to, how little rather, to a sex object, we are trouble.
I am saddened by my experiences, or maybe it is that I have not ran in the perfect guy for me.
I want to give you a big ((((HUG))), I think I am an expert at internet dating, I have been on many many dates MOST good, a few bad...LOL...
I met a guy last year from Atlanta on Match.com and we had a lot in common since that is where I grew up and we talked over the phone just about every single day, he finally flew up to spend the week with me, ...and YES I said week. (BIG MISTAKE)
I was a little late picking him up from the airport due to traffic and he got a little attitude about that in the car and then I took him to his hotel, (even though we had talked for several months) I was not comfortable in letting him stay at me place -- just yet...LOL. He was a manager for this large nursing home and about 95 percent of the time he was on the phone sreening applicants, checking credit on folks and that got on my nerves too (he was suppose to be on vacation).
Things went well initially, he took me shopping, bought me some outfits, and we had dinner just about every single day, we went to DC to the White House and visited monuments and just had fun. The last two days we had gotten really comfortable with each other and since he was still staying in a hotel I decided to let him sleep on my couch in my media room for the last day of his visit. He asked to use my computer at my home and I forgot to take some pics off my computer, some of my weight loss and my previous boy friend and boy it turned ugly real quick, he started questioning me about several things and then he tried to force himself on me the last night...although he had wined and dined me I was NOT ready for the next level of sex with him, I know I am a grown women and if I wanted to have sex it would have been MY decision to do so...but he got an attitude coz I would not give it up...so he did not say anything else to me until he left to go home. I took him to the airport the next day, and I was VERY HAPPY to get rid of him....I learned my lesson very good after that time...
I DO think a lot of guys who date on the internet think a lot of women are desperate or lonely...some men are just plain stupid if they think so...hell I can go any where and find a date or have sex for that matter, the only reason I chose internet dating was because I wanted to be selective on the type of guy that I was looking for and I am so busy at work I don't have that much time to mingle and do the club scene -- when I do go to the clubs guys are all over me, but I want substance in a man, not saying I can't get that from a night club, but it is unlikely I will find the guy of my dreams in the club..lol, I was looking for guy in the IT field just like I am that we share a common interest...I think the church is a good place to look too.
Sorry you had a bad experience they happen to the best of us.
Naomi
