A total wow I WAS LEFT SCRATCHING MY HEAD

OH BOY WHERE DO I START ? WELL A VERY GOOD FRIEND OF MINE FOR AROUND 25 YEARS CONFESSED TO ME TO DAY OR NIGHT THAT SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME ....oH MY GOD I CAN'T SLEEP OVER THIS I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO . SHE ISN'T GAY IT IS JUST ME THAT SHE IS ATTRACTED TO IN DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO . < I DON'T WANT TO LOSE HER AS A FRIEND BUT CAN'T GO TO THAT LEVEL WITH HER EITHER THIS WHOLE THING IS BLOWING MY MIND . SHE HAS A 19 YEAR OLD AND A FIVE YEAR OLD AND PLUS SHE HAS A BOY FRIEND THAT SHE HAS BEEN WITH FOREVER AND WE ARE ALL GOOD FRIENDS I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS DO I JUST CARRY ON OUR FRIENDSHIP AS IF THIS NEVER HAPPENED OR WHAT . YES WE HAD A FEW DRINKS TO NIGHT AND SHE SAID SHE HAS BEEN FEELING THIS WAY SINCE ATLEAST 2000 AND SHE WAS JUST AFRAID TO SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE SHE ISN'T ATTRACTED TO ANY OTHER FEMALES JUST ME . WOW WHAT IS A GIRL TO DO I AM TOTAL AND COMPLETELY LOST AND CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION DO I JUST CHALK IT OFF AS SHE WAS DRUNK AND TALKING CRAZY AS SHE ASKED ME TO DO BECAUSE SHE WAS EMBARASSED AFTERWARD AND I KNOW THAT SHE WASN'T OR WHAT PLEASE HELP ME THIS IS NOT THE KIND OF ATTENTION THAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BY LOSING WEIGHT BY ALL MEANS __________________
 

That is really rough stuff!!  I think as women we bond quickly and very deeply, maybe she is just confused about the feeling.  Does she have a sister? I am an only child and my girlfiend is really, really special to me.  I just happen to also have a very deep realtionship with my husband and it keeps the other relationships I have with women at bay.  I think she is trying  to define what she has with you and has mislabled it maybe.  Sit and talk with her, be honest now and if you don't want it to be more than what it is tell her that.  Let her know that there have to be bounderies that you won't cross.  If you enjoy your time with her say that also, just be clear about not taking it anywhere else.  I think if you can do this without her feeling foolish she will take your friendship in the way you offer it. Friends are hard to come by, don't give one up if you don't have to.

That is quite a situation 

You're right, Lee, but I think "Niterun" handled it like she had her own talk show.  Hey, I wonder if she can help cure me of my fixation with boobies...  Nah...  wait a minute...  on second thought...  I think I'll just work through my problem.

Here's the thing: you can't let other people mold your relationship with them. You are the boss. It's your life and you make the rules. With that said, I have had several gay friends who I have known were attracted to me on some level. But I did not want to go on that level, and it did not go there. And you know what, our friendship remained the same. If you feel that uncomfortable about what was said, sit her down and talk to her. But if it were me, I would pass off as what she said to me as drunk talk and keep our friendship moving like it was the day before.

Let me give you a real life situation that happened to me:

I have a friend named chaz, real cool been friends forever. Well a few years ago, we were in a bar kicking it, and she and some guy she was messing around with came over to me and asked me to do a threesome. They begged me for like 10 mins. I said no, over and over and over.

The next day, I never mentioned it to her and you know what, we are still good friends to this day.

People get the point by our actions. They dont like rejection. Trust me, she probably won't come at you like that again.

Continue to be her friend.

No to a threesome huh? 


Aiight, aiight...  I hear that.  But what about a one some?  See that's when a sista starts off on self-foreplay, really working the kinks in and out,  and then just as things start to get really hot she looks up and asks, "Onesome?"