Why...why...oh why do people do this!!!!!

I tried the leave town thing.  The year my Mom passed, me, my sister and son went to Vegas for Christmas.  We had a ball!   But babyyyyyyy, went we got back, my relatives did not talk to us for about a month!

I wish I could go away every year at Christmas....SMH

My relatives are also into the materialistic ways.....I didn't even go into THAT aspect of it cause I would have been typing forever.  LOL

You hang in there too!

You sound like my Daddy.........

"i'm on a fixed income that ain't fixed to good"

I swear he's a fool w/ it!!!

I'll give you some advice that only he could give.........

How the hell they gonna tell me how to spend my money, what they can do is give me some money and i'll spend it! Dahell they got on they mind.
-Fred D. Baker Sr.

I can relate, sis. 

When I lost my dad...I hated to hear people say "I know what you are going through". This particularly bothered me when people who still had their dad said it.  I know they were just trying to comfort me...but I really wanted to scream and ask them "how the **** could you know"???

When I miscarried my first baby at 5 months...I was DEVASTATED!  The only way for me to cope was to carry her picture around with me for MONTHS!  If I left it at home...I felt like I was abandoning her.  I WOULD NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT HER PIC.  People thought I was going crazy....but it was my way of coping. 

Our mind adapts to the situation at hand...and does whatever it takes to help us along. 

I got your back beautiful!


 

(((((Inspire)))))

Thanks for last night too!  LMAO @ the second message to clarify who you were.  So glad you put Inspire cause I can't ever get your government name right.  LOL

Do whatever feels comfortable for you Kim  I cant wait for the day that you start  enjoyin the holidays  


Is this so hard to understand?  Not at all

Please tell me you all would honor your family members or friends wishes on this. Yes I would

Or am I just being a biotch about this? 

I just needed to vent...thanks for listening

Thanks (((((((Robyn))))))) 

ummm I know what you mean... The xmas card exchange was a big step for me..Especially since I don't normally participate in things like that.... Take some time to sit back and regroup.....I've gotten to the   point where I don't answer my phone if I know it's someone that will try to make me feel bad for not participating in whatever is going on.. This is one of the worst Xmas I have ever had..Financially..  I have to thank God that I'm still here and that all of my family members  are also.... You're not being a Biotch, you are just not in the mood... They should respect your wishes.. but sometimes they are trying to be there for you because they know that this is the season that is the hardest for you... I don't think they are doing this to hurt you... Just tell them this is your time to reflect...((((((((((((((((((Kim)))))))))))))))))))) It will get better..

Thanks (((((((Joyce))))))

Kim ~smooches and hugs~......I don't do the holiday season either (you know why)....so I understand about pressure.....know that I love you!

Kim, you are in my prayers and I fully understand how you are feeling, be strong sweetie, I have lost both my parents too, and the holidays are the HARDEST, but I have a large extended family and we try to stay close together. I have started attending church again, that helped me alot and also praying, you MUST move forward, otherwise it will impossible for you to heal, nothing will bring back your mom, I am sure she would want you to move on and enjoy your life and just reflect on the good times you shared together, and it is ok to cry...(((HUGS))) your friend.