Should I or should I NOT..............

Star Jones
on 12/15/08 11:59 pm - National Harbor, MD
Have her sign a "no running to HR" affadavit and then have your lil talk!! LMAO. Or do like they do for phone conversations....."this convo will be recorded for training purposes"

~Shani~
I've been pudgy, chubby, thick, and now fat........Imma give thin a go round!!!


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(deactivated member)
on 12/16/08 12:08 am

Ghetto is as ghetto does.  You can't fix stupid!   She might get loud on you for no good reason.

 Step away from the hood-rat and walk back to your office in an orderly fashion.

Dalexis
on 12/16/08 12:13 am - Brooklyn, NY
I have to disagree with that, D.A. 
There are plenty of ppl who can be ghetto as hell in their environment then flip the switch in a professional situation.  She young lady just probably hasn't learned how to prior to now.  Some ppl need to be taught how to navigate what W.E.B Du Bois called a "double consciousness"

"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer."   Plutach.  Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.

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Tyree_n_TN
on 12/16/08 12:20 am - Chatt to Madison, TN
I agree with you D, it's not always the case of stupidity. Sometimes (believe it or not) some poeple just don't know...

I GOTS MAD NINJA SKILLS!!!!!!!........

(deactivated member)
on 12/16/08 12:21 am
Perhaps you're right, my wise and scholarly brotha.  But, I've been burned too many times, man, so much until I just don't have that teaching spirit anymore for these  "new-jacks" that have come in and are trying to mess up the game.  To me they just don't get it.   
MrBaker870
on 12/16/08 2:11 am - Little Rock, AR
TWO WORDS FOR YOU

MANHOOD & PERSEVERENCE!!!

Tell me what they mean to you?
Those two words to me say that i'm man enough to tell you like it is and what you should be doing even when it doesn't feel like a comfortable situation. I'll see it through to the end and fight through whatever the storm may be. Those are TWO very important words in this world.

UPLIFT...
When a brother/sister is doing something that they shouldn't or down and out we all need to give them a little UPLIFT and help them find a better way that is our duty to EACH OTHER.

DOUBLE AYY
PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP ON ANY BROTHER!!!
NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Smile for me.........
(deactivated member)
on 12/16/08 2:52 am
You, Sir, are a gentleman and a scholar; and furthermore, have shown me the error of my ways.  I thank you for your enlighten opinion and learned observation in this matter. 

That having been said, I retract my earlier statements. 

Let the church say,
"Amen." 
(deactivated member)
on 12/16/08 12:09 am - H-Town, TX
I really don't know about this one, I'm straddling the fence. Hope you make your decision wisely.
HERO_XXL
on 12/16/08 12:20 am - (Encyclopedia Brown), NY
Hey Mack. Other than your boggle, I hope things are well on your end.

Suggestion:
Disguise the conversation. You can very well say EXACTLY what you want to say WITHOUT saying it and keep your rep intact SIMULTANEOUSLY. You can give her the same talk you were given--it's up to her (at a later date) to discern whether it was for her ears or not & to know (again, at a later date) exactly what you were attempting to do.

Play into her strong points.
(stop it! YES SHE DOES)
She already mentioned her aspirations  of wanting to grow within the company--ask her what she thinks she needs to accomplish to make that a reality. WITHOUT POINTING OUT THE OBVIOUS)-make it like a homework assignment. This entire conversation shouldn't (and actually can't) happen on one occasion. You can build a rapport with her in the time it will/should take.
You should be commended for even CONTEMPLATING whether you should say something or not. Some people, no matter their color, wouldn't say a word. Which, of course, is their choice/right. I think you're questioning whether you should BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. Think it over.
Even if you decide AGAINST it, It''s still in your right to do so. Good luck.

1.) The BACKLINES have backlines. Watch what you say and more importantly WHO YOU SAY IT TO!! 2.) There are NO secrets on BAF. DON'T BE FOOLED!!
3.) The person who says: "I'm going to tell you something, but you can't tell anyone." has already TOLD 50 other people!  
No--this isn't from experience--well, not MINE anyway!
 

Dalexis
on 12/16/08 12:29 am - Brooklyn, NY
Hero,
I agree with you 110% in terms of possibly mentoring this woman. 

"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer."   Plutach.  Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.

www.myspace.com/dalexis863

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