Working The Kinks Out........

Discussing the topic with my people and would love your input..........

What are your ideas about "kinkyness" at home with the wife/husband/SO? 

Fellas:  If your wife/SO asks you to engage in something a lil' on the kinky side......do you feel that she is being "ho"ish? or do you welcome it?

Ladies:  Do you feel at liberty to get "down & dirty" with your husband/SO? or do you hesitate because you feel he may look at you like "where da hell you pick THAT up from?"

The statement that started this convo:  "I would never do those kinda things with my wife/SO.  Those are the kind of things that you do with ho's in the streets."

Can't answer the question I am too busy focused on your avatar. You look great sistah

 thanks lady.  but please answer the question....i really wanna know if i am waaaaaay out there with my thinking. 

Well ok I will answer. I am not currently having sex but when I do find the right person. I am open to try whatever. Nothing will be off limits. But if he does happen to suggest something that doesn't work for me we will just have to have a conversation about it. But I don't think he should look at me sideways if I want to try something new and vice versa.

I consider myself to be pretty open-minded.  Having said that, would I consider anything my partner wanted to do out of the ordinary as "ho-ish"?  The answer is "no".   I mean, isn't that kinda hypocritical to want someone who is "freaky", but when they show the "freaky" side, the first thought is, "Dayum, she's a ho!"? 


ETA: the dude who said that junk about "I'd never do those things...." is a fool  If HE doesn't do those things wtih his wife/SO, the next man will...eventually. 

hey d!!!  i think we share the same ideas on this one.  my thoughts are that i wanna do ANY & EVERYTHING to keep mine and more importantly to keep ME from getting bored.  if i'm keeping it at home, i don't see the problem. 

i wonder why a lot of guys feel like their wife needs to be more reserved, but they will bring whips & chains to meet the chick on da side at the spot.

Cuz some of my brothers don't really know what they/we want.   I guess maybe they feel its a reflection on them if their mate is sexually open minded.  Logicially, why woudnt' we want someone who could partner with us in all ways: Help raise our family, help prosper economically, AND curl my daggone toes on a regular basis?   To me, that's the best of all worlds.

This is something that i am dealing w/ and been accused of.

For me it is something about having that woman being sort of "angelic" i'm not sure what you can call it. I've always felt that your woman should be that "good girl" type chic or so to say. And the so called chic on the side is the one that would be the nasty one. I think this came from how I seen my Mother she was the type who always took care of her kids and held done a job hanging chickens at Tyson. She is an ANGEL but when I got older I found out my mamma smokes weed and kicks it just as hard as I do if not harder. (SHE'S THE LIFE OF THE PARTY) However I still have those images of my Mamma being that "Sunday School Hardworking Mamma" I don't know where the feeling comes from however I can tell you that as of today. I've gotten better and now I understand and know how it feels to have it all in house and it isn't a DAY that goes by when i'm not thankful for my amazing, intelligent, strong, FAITHFUL, and beautiful Shawty.

Shawty bad w/ it........she done broke my damn 3 rule!!!!

WHATS GOOD ELB!!
GET AT ME!!!!

yes you share the same ideas that ol' dude was talking about.  his woman is an angel, she doesn't do any of that stuff and she is a good girl and she wouldn't even want to do it.  my reply to  him:  "not only would she probably want to do it, she probably don' done it, just not with yo azz"  needless to say he's a lil PO'd with me right now.

Well,

What worked for me was having a for real conversation about it. It was/is uneasy for me however I love shawty so i'm man enough to work through and listen and make those adjustments.

What I suggest is that you break him off all in one night w/ all the tricks of the trade. Then after he is sleep have something cooking for him in the kitchen. Let him know that he can now get all that ish in house. He might be looking at you funny for a sec. but afterwards he'll be like OHHHH LAWWDDD DO IT AGAIN!!!!!!

He'll come home w/ his check in hand saying here baby!!!!!

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