Do you think you are different post WLS????

I dont think I'm different, but folks might think so.

Im still very sweet, but I dont take as much mess from folks as I used to.

I just know my worth now and refuse to be treated less than I deserve.

If that means Ive changed then good, I've changed for the better. 

So to sum up what MOST everyone is saying:

WLS may have changed their body, maybe even their confidence, but not their HEARTS!  And that is what is important!  I'm just a better version of ME.

I'm the same but now people are afraid of my confidence.  I have always laughed and talked with men and the women were ok because they felt they had nothing to fear.  They didn't have anything to fear but it wasn't because of my size, it was because I did not want what they had.  Hubby says I never knew that I could'nt get whatever I wanted.  Self confidence starts early.  I am the baby in my family and my mom always told me I was pretty and gave me whatever I wanted.  If momma said it, what anybody else said was irrelevant.  Of course life has given me a few hard knocks but I've been able to get back up.  So now, almost to goal, some feel I've changed because they have changed their view of me.
Z 

I am late as hell and MM I know you enjoying the BDAY weekend with BF now (don't hurt him girl) But I think we HAVE changes the more confidence, not taking shiot, not having atience like you did before sorry folks butthose are CHANGES lol. They are good changes but changes nonetheless. I think one fam member said they know their worth now and I think that sums up my change perfectly.  I know my worth and I know my value which if you catch the difference holla at your girl.

I found myself esteem and I take no BS (it can with age) anymore if I have to say it I mean it and don't say I'm sorry.
They haven't told me I changed but you can see the looks. I've change (say like my GBIES) I have my big head in the air studding I was told twice in church on Sunday pass that I look like a fox an I truly finely(SP?) feel like one. I have more 2-piece suit in my closet than ever, haven't had one on in 29 years when I found out I was Pregnant with the first DD.

"Anybody told you that you are different?"

Only people that don't or didn't really know me. I've always been confident and had high self-esteem. My tolerance has changed but I think that may be due more to getting older than losing weight. I was still in my 20s pre-op and now I'm in my 30s so as Madea would say "my lightbulb is on." Most of the people that say that I'm different have fallen by the way side. I think they were less comfortable being around me once I wasn't the big girl with the pretty face anymore. 


"Do you agree? "

I don't have lifetime expectations for people that were only meant to be in my life for a season. I recognize that role that people play for the period of time that they are supposed to play it and I keep it moving. The only difference in me in my opinion is that I've learned how to lean on the consistency that God brings into my life. He has taught me how to maintain my dignity and interigity when I'm placed in adverse situations were people are judging me based on the outter and not the inner. I'm also more comfortable in my skin which I equate once again to being in my 30s and knowing who and whose I am. Its a comfort level that I've grown into as a woman and it has nothing to do with weight.


Go Well,
Lena

You know at first I thought I wasn't. However, somebody told me the other week.."you know it aint always about you".  I thnk I pretty much think like most of the responses on here. I have ZERO tolerence for BS.......ZERO!! If that make somebody else think that I am a little self  centered...then so be it 

As far as dating and a relationship goes...I am single and I'm not settling just to be a part of somebody elses BS. Life expectancy on dating and relationship these days is about 1 week. It use to be 2 week.

I am the same in some way but different in other. It use to be real important to me to have people like me and be around me. Now I am who I am and I really dont care whether you like me or not. What another person thinks of me does not add or take anything away from who I really am. If I like you I like. If I don't I don't. I appreciate the same. I dont want anybody in my life who smiles in my face but talking about me behind my back to their other friend and then allow their friend to think it is okay to treat me like ****  I rather not have you in my life EVER

What was the question again?

  Damn - you fo sho had some **** to get off yo chest!!!  I had to look around this mofo to make sure wasn't a COUCH up in this piece!!!!

I might send yo azz a bill for psychiatric treatment sessions...... LOL