Mothers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (kinna long)
<<<---"I missed my Mom's birthday once...looked what happened to me!!!" "When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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My mom and I have a very funny relationship, and I'm an only child so I really catch it. She lives almost 45min to an hour away and always wants me to visit but she passes my house on her way home from work everyday!
I beleive my stepdad has a lot to do with our strained relationship, and granted she is his wife, but it's ALL about him. Then if there's a spare moment she thinks of me and my daughter. Yet, I'm supposed to be at her beck and call.
I've prayed over it, decided that I will live my life as best I can, I can't change her nor can she change me.
My mom and I have a very funny relationship, and I'm an only child so I really catch it. She lives almost 45min to an hour away and always wants me to visit but she passes my house on her way home from work everyday!
I beleive my stepdad has a lot to do with our strained relationship, and granted she is his wife, but it's ALL about him. Then if there's a spare moment she thinks of me and my daughter. Yet, I'm supposed to be at her beck and call.
I've prayed over it, decided that I will live my life as best I can, I can't change her nor can she change me.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
Neicia,
Thank you so much for understanding and sharing your story with me it's nice to know I am not the only one! I pray your mother get her act together soon before it's 2 late!!
Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely who others think you are!
long answer: guuuuuuuurl. i'll summarize by telling the end: my parents sued me for custody of my only child a year ago, claiming i denied them visitation, beat my child, neglected her, etc. no steps led to it, no warning (my daughter was with them the day they filed the papers), just random, crazy, controlling, needa force their way into my life type mess. judge took off her glasses, looked at my parents and said i've read all the papers in this case and to be quite honest i've never seen anything so vicious and contemptable and if you were my mother i wouldn't want you around my children either.
the truth is it's supposed to be nice and gentle up on walton mountain, but the more people i come across (women) the more i find out that the way our generation of momses relate to us is waaay more common than i expected. i thot becoming a grandma would smooth her out, if anything the fevah got worse. i decided on therapy to learn how not to repeat the pattern with my child and you know what i learned? you don't have to keep any toxic relationship in your life just cuz you feel obligated and frankly at 40 i figured, shyt i've already given her 1/2 my life, this next 1/2 is for me. just about anybody can be a mom, but not everybody should. that's not to say that i'm ungrateful for the countless things and sacrifices made for me but not so self destructive as to think i owe it to my mother to put up with the mayhem and foolishness.
short version: no. 
